Returning faulty goods to China

Irritated49

HampshireH said:

I've never looked at someone's buttons before to notice if they were the wrong or right way for women's wear. Wouldn't even cross my mind

Shame you have to give it away. Can't you make use of it of an evening to hunker down in as opposed to wearing it out 

It'll go to the charity shop. I'm now a bit wary about claiming the refund offered; as they have my bank details that could be dangerous. I shall have to ask at the bank about getting a new card and then changing all my standing orders/direct debits. 

user1977

Irritated49 said:

HampshireH said:

I've never looked at someone's buttons before to notice if they were the wrong or right way for women's wear. Wouldn't even cross my mind

Shame you have to give it away. Can't you make use of it of an evening to hunker down in as opposed to wearing it out 

It'll go to the charity shop. I'm now a bit wary about claiming the refund offered; as they have my bank details that could be dangerous. I shall have to ask at the bank about getting a new card and then changing all my standing orders/direct debits. 

Why? What on earth do you think they can do with your bank account number other than send you money?

eskbanker

Irritated49 said:
I'm now a bit wary about claiming the refund offered; as they have my bank details that could be dangerous. I shall have to ask at the bank about getting a new card and then changing all my standing orders/direct debits. 

As above, it's unlikely to be necessary or even beneficial doing this - would you seriously contemplate moving SOs and DDs to other current accounts just because a Chinese company had your debit card number?

Irritated49

user1977 said:

Irritated49 said:

HampshireH said:

I've never looked at someone's buttons before to notice if they were the wrong or right way for women's wear. Wouldn't even cross my mind

Shame you have to give it away. Can't you make use of it of an evening to hunker down in as opposed to wearing it out 

It'll go to the charity shop. I'm now a bit wary about claiming the refund offered; as they have my bank details that could be dangerous. I shall have to ask at the bank about getting a new card and then changing all my standing orders/direct debits. 

Why? What on earth do you think they can do with your bank account number other than send you money?

Good point well made! I did warn you I was a bit of a novice at these things! Such a sharp learning curve. Thank you everyone.
(I haven't worked out yet how to make a reply to user1977, say, without including the rest as seen above.)

Irritated49

Irritated49 said:

user1977 said:

Irritated49 said:

HampshireH said:

I've never looked at someone's buttons before to notice if they were the wrong or right way for women's wear. Wouldn't even cross my mind

Shame you have to give it away. Can't you make use of it of an evening to hunker down in as opposed to wearing it out 

It'll go to the charity shop. I'm now a bit wary about claiming the refund offered; as they have my bank details that could be dangerous. I shall have to ask at the bank about getting a new card and then changing all my standing orders/direct debits. 

Why? What on earth do you think they can do with your bank account number other than send you money?

Good point well made! I did warn you I was a bit of a novice at these things! Such a sharp learning curve. Thank you everyone.
(I haven't worked out yet how to make a reply to user1977, say, without including the rest as seen above.)

Oh! All that doesn't appear on the actual post, does it? Maybe I have sussed it out after all.

Irritated49

eskbanker said:

Irritated49 said:
I'm now a bit wary about claiming the refund offered; as they have my bank details that could be dangerous. I shall have to ask at the bank about getting a new card and then changing all my standing orders/direct debits. 

As above, it's unlikely to be necessary or even beneficial doing this - would you seriously contemplate moving SOs and DDs to other current accounts just because a Chinese company had your debit card number?

Goodness; you people are all so helpful. Thank you.

born_again

Irritated49 said:

HampshireH said:

I've never looked at someone's buttons before to notice if they were the wrong or right way for women's wear. Wouldn't even cross my mind

Shame you have to give it away. Can't you make use of it of an evening to hunker down in as opposed to wearing it out 

It'll go to the charity shop. I'm now a bit wary about claiming the refund offered; as they have my bank details that could be dangerous. I shall have to ask at the bank about getting a new card and then changing all my standing orders/direct debits. 

Stop the card if you want after the refund. Although a waste of time. These retailers are not interested in anything but selling their goods.
DD & S/O rely on sort code/Account. Which they will not have.

Irritated49

born_again said:

Irritated49 said:

HampshireH said:

I've never looked at someone's buttons before to notice if they were the wrong or right way for women's wear. Wouldn't even cross my mind

Shame you have to give it away. Can't you make use of it of an evening to hunker down in as opposed to wearing it out 

It'll go to the charity shop. I'm now a bit wary about claiming the refund offered; as they have my bank details that could be dangerous. I shall have to ask at the bank about getting a new card and then changing all my standing orders/direct debits. 

Stop the card if you want after the refund. Although a waste of time. These retailers are not interested in anything but selling their goods.
DD & S/O rely on sort code/Account. Which they will not have.

Thanks for your advice.

DullGreyGuy

CliveOfIndia said:

Irritated49 said:

the cardigan has the buttons on the wrong side so could not be worn by a woman

As others have said, I'm struggling to understand how the buttons being on the wrong side mean you can't wear it.  If it really bothers you, it's not exactly difficult to remove the buttons and sew them back on to the "right" side yourself.  Or even, find a local person who does clothing alterations, it would be a trivial job for them.

In terms of returns/refunds, take what you've been offered.  It really would be a hugely disproportionate amount of effort to try and argue the toss with them, especially for such a low-value item.

Its not that simple as at a minimum new button holes would be needed on the other side and really you'd want to be closing the button holes on the side they currently are which is going to leave a mark. 

TELLIT01 said:

I would have thought 'buttons on the wrong side..... for a woman' is actually pretty obvious to all but those who want to be difficult!  On menswear the buttons are traditionally on the right hand side and on womenswear on the left.  The OP ordered an item for a female and arrived with buttons on the traditional side for men..

Traditional? Traditions changed all the time, traditionally women wouldnt wear trousers and the skirts hemline wouldnt be above the ankle. Go out in town in any English city in summer and you'll see very few women in a full length skirt. 

On the fairly safe assumption that the OP doesnt only wear full length skirts they are clearly comfortable about moving away from some traditions and so which side the buttons are on is really irrelevant. Many now sell "unisex" items like https://www.cottontraders.com/unisex/knitwear/cardigans/? which you'll note has female models wearing right side buttons. 

There is a big difference between wearing items of clothing that are marketed to both men and women hence called "unisex" and the androgynous look. Personally have no issues with identifying the genders of the models in the Cotton Traders photos despite the fact they are wearing the same knitwear. 

In reality many more items are unisex than you think and the only actual difference between the version in the female section and the one in the male is the size label they stitch in - the men's one gets an S and the women's an M. You are then blindly buying it thinking its "women's" when in reality its unisex (obv talking things without buttons)