Money Moral Dilemma: Should our neighbour pay us for taking in his parcels when he's out?

Groom

There's a big difference between being a good neighbour and taking in the odd parcel and being expected to do it everyday. Contact your neighbour and tell then that in future if they want you to take in the parcels, they need to collect. They have no excuse as these days most delivery firms send confirmation as to where they have been left. If they continue to leave them uncollected, refuse to take them in. 
At Christmas I took in a parcel for a neighbour I didn't know. She collected it as soon as she got home and the next day brought round a box of biscuits as a thank you! 

savergrant

CapeTown said:

So basically you take his parcels and he takes yours.....is that correct.  How is this a dilemma 

Neighbour gets parcels every day, waits for op to drop them round  very occasionally op has a parcel delivered to the neighbour who waits for op to collect. A bit of an unequal relationship imo.

mopearce

I had this problem with my neighbour and they never came to collect their parcels so I’d have to take them over. On one occasion the parcel was heavy and bulky so it was left in my hall for nearly a week in the way. Eventually I took it to them and they had wondered where it was! I’m sure they had a note. After that I refused to take them saying that I’d rather not as they never came to collect them. My other neighbour did this too so it had to go back to the depot. I’d suggest you ask him to collect his parcels promptly or he buys a safe box.

iclayt

If you're not expecting a delivery for yourself, don't answer the door if it's an inconvenient time.

Stop taking parcels round to someone who doesn't bring over yours in return.

It's always worth being neighbourly to keep up good relations, you never know when you might need to rely on them - but don't be a mug.

JuliusCaesar

Just stop answering the door to delivery drivers.

MoiraPark

I think a conversation with your neighbour is in order. Ask him to please come and collect his parcels in a timely manner. I would not ask for payment nor risk a falling out. Be polite and explain that it is no longer convenient for you to deliver his parcels to him and that you will keep them until he picks them up but if he is not able to do that you will just have to return them to sender as delivered to wrong address.

Rd1994

No - just stop taking them in. Can say you weren’t in or post man didn’t knock / didn’t hear the door. Job done 

LesD

Have a quiet word with him explaining that you think there is a risk of parcels not arriving and you being accused.  There is a difference between business parcels and personal parcels which are less likely to 'not arrive'.  Ask him to arrange a different reception system for when he is out..

marcia_

 I wouldn't ask for payment. Just refuse the delivery if it bother you 

primrose_penguin

We have always taken in parcels for nearby neighbours, some collect them some I take them to, but it has never been anything large or heavy, they would do the same for us. However I think your neighbour is taking a bit of an advantage and using you as a delivery point for his business, and then can't even be bothered to collect them. I would have a word with him and say he needs to come and collect his parcels and that if they are large you will not be able to take them in, always ask the delivery firm to put a note through his door to say where the parcel has been left then he cannot say he didn't know he had had a delivery. Does he have a garage or a shed he could ask parcels to be left in, you can often request parcels be left in an outhouse etc. when buying? If it is really getting you down and is too regular I would tell your neighbour and the postman/delivery driver you are no longer able to accept his parcels. I would then make sure you have a secure place your parcels can be left if you order something and may not be home. One thing I would not do is ask him to pay you for taking them in. Try to solve the problem without falling out with your neighbour.