Ex Partner Fraud

twitawoo51

If anyone has any advice i would be very grateful. 

I met my ex 4 years ago and he said he had been in the armed forces for 30 years SBS.  Fell in love as you do, moved into his house with my teenage children. My mum had passed away and I was left some inheritance and i was persuaded to spend money on his home to make it our home.  I put on a new roof, two new extensions, new boiler, new electrics, 12k kitchen all new appliances with a total of £70k spent.  My money was running out and things changed between us.  i asked for my money back as things were not good between us.  He called the police on me told them i had attacked him, I had not, i was interviewed and even the police said they knew he was lying about it.  Then he took out a non mol against me he said he feared for his life, i went to court told the judge about the money he owed me he didn't turn up to court.  The judge then made a final hearing and to days before that he cancelled the non mol because i had sent in so much information to prove he was lying. He has two names and claims benefits for a disability which he does not have and has a friend who is a carer for him but hes an alcoholic and isnt able to care for him.  

Got a solicitor spent £4k to find out the house isnt even in his name because he had been to prison for fraud previously.  Its is his friends name but he technically is only holding the house for him.  I also discovered that he wasnt in the forces or mi5 as he had stated.  Our life of 4 years had been based on a lie.  He made us homeless wont give me my furniture back or pay me back the money i spent on his property. My mental health has been awful since as my parents didnt have much and now i dont have them or the money the left me and my children.  

If anyone has any advice i would be4 truly grateful for it.

silvercar

Other than the house, does he have any money?

twitawoo51

I honestly do not know.  he is very good at hiding things.  

elsien

The house isn’t technically in the Friend’s name it is in the friend’s  name, so if Friend is claiming any means tested benefits while owning a property they don’t live in they are committing benefit fraud.
 

Which is not a lot of help to you however as you  lived there but not as a tenant, is it worth trying to look at whether you have acquired any beneficial interest in the property? 

Ditto, would  the friend help you retrieve your belongings?

twitawoo51

the house mortgage is in his friends name because he couldn't get a mortgage due to fraud bankruptcy and prison. Technically if it was his property I would have a beneficial interest but because the property is in his friends name I have no beneficial interest.  Had I  known at the time it was not in my ex partners name and that he had been to prison for fraud I would not have spent any of my inheritance on that property.  I have also written to his friend but no reply as I expected.

FrugaiMacDugal

Sorry for the mess you're in.

I'm wondering how it's possible to buy a house in friends name with all the source of funds and money laundering checks nowadays, also conveyancing and land registry rules.

twitawoo51

he bought the house many years ago 20 years approx

gwynlas

If you have evidence of transferring money for building works or any other large bills then you have the basis of a financial beneficial interest claim regardless whether house owned by him or friend.

Admiral_Barbarossa

twitawoo51 said:

If anyone has any advice i would be very grateful. 

I met my ex 4 years ago and he said he had been in the armed forces for 30 years SBS. .

I am sorry for you, but he is, as known at my Veterans Breakfast Group, a WALT

Spendless

Unfortunately youve been taken in by a con artist is what it sounds like to me.

It was naive to spend your inheritance on renovating a house that your name wasnt on the deeds to and Im sorry that you did that. 

As a previous poster has pointed out, this house belongs to your exes friend, no one else. I suspect ex rents it from his mate and youve fallen for spending your money improving his mates house. 

Has the lawyer you engaged that discovered it was exes friend's house said anything about how likely you are to recoup any money or at least get your belongings back?

Sadly I think this may be turn out to be a huge life lesson  😪  and you're going to have to build everything up again  from scratch. You can do this, but this time be very wary of parting with any cash to someone else. Good luck. 

twitawoo51

I wasn't naive I was suffering from ptsd after finding my mum on the floor.  So my mental health was in a poor state and he knew that.  He is a walter mitty and I trusted him because of his 30 year service in the forces and we bonded over the PTSD which he said he had after the forces.  I mean what normal person lies about that. I guess I was just clutching at straws hoping to find a shred of hope to getting the money back, but thanks guys anyway for your input.