Should my partner be charging me rent?

Tabieth

I think it reasonable that a cohabiting couple share accommodation costs / split bills etc. in a way both are happy with. And the £300 he wants to charge isn’t an unreasonable amount. 

But this situation rings alarm bells. He owns outright, presumably he has no mortgage to cover. So the rent he wants to charge you is pure profit? And he won’t tell you what the council tax / service charge are? It all sounds a bit controlling and I’d have serious concerns about this relationship if I were you. 

Olinda99

amend your post - they are not your 'partner'

Mr.Generous

Is there going to be an annual rent review clause by the way, and what about a depoisit in case you cause damage?

dollypug123

Mr.Generous said:

Is there going to be an annual rent review clause by the way, and what about a depoisit in case you cause damage?

I initially said that I if he wanted to charge me rent I wanted a rental agreement. He said that was ridiculous and that if I wanted our relationship to be like that I should move out.  

user1977

You can look up the council tax banding and the council's current rates yourself, you don't need him to tell you.

But it sound like there are more fundamental problems. 

BikingBud

dollypug123 said:

Mr.Generous said:

Is there going to be an annual rent review clause by the way, and what about a depoisit in case you cause damage?

I initially said that I if he wanted to charge me rent I wanted a rental agreement. He said that was ridiculous and that if I wanted our relationship to be like that I should move out.  

That seems to seal the deal then!

FlorayG

Albermarle said:

It is the same dilemma as do you charge rent to any adult children living at home.
Some people think that is OK and others do not.
Personally I think it is OK as long as it is a reduced rate.

No, it's nothing at all like that. You bring up kids, you expect to be responsible for them until they are able to be responsible for themselves at which point you introduce them to 'the real world'. Adult children 'at home' get their washing done, food provided, cooking done, cleaning done - basically it's a cheap hotel for them. You expect them to find their feet and move out at some point.
Letting a 'life' partner move in and share your bed and your life is completely different. If he was renting it would be reasonable to ask OP to pay 1/3 of the rent, but not charge just for pure profit

dollypug123

user1977 said:

You can look up the council tax banding and the council's current rates yourself, you don't need him to tell you.

But it sound like there are more fundamental problems. 

Yes you're right, and I know what the council tax is. It's the service charge I don't know. 

BikingBud

FlorayG said:

Albermarle said:

It is the same dilemma as do you charge rent to any adult children living at home.
Some people think that is OK and others do not.
Personally I think it is OK as long as it is a reduced rate.

No, it's nothing at all like that. You bring up kids, you expect to be responsible for them until they are able to be responsible for themselves at which point you introduce them to 'the real world'. Adult children 'at home' get their washing done, food provided, cooking done, cleaning done - basically it's a cheap hotel for them. You expect them to find their feet and move out at some point.
Letting a 'life' partner move in and share your bed and your life is completely different. If he was renting it would be reasonable to ask OP to pay 1/3 of the rent, but not charge just for pure profit

But for that rent you would expect your own space and privacy!

anselld

700+350 per month would take him well over the rent a room allowance and he would be required to declare all income including contributions to bills on self assessment and pay the tax.  Indeed 700 is already over so he should already be doing so.
However, this is in reality a relationship problem not a housing one and in that respect too many red flags in my view.
Perhaps you should be charging him for “services”.