Teetering on the brink

EatingBeans

Thanks d. Sadly I think you are overestimating how much I can currently do for myself and how much dd2 now does for me. Driving dd2 places is really the only support I can give to her and only when I am able. She already does all the cooking, cleaning and washing of both our clothes. I order shopping to be delivered and she puts it away for me. If I have to go anywhere I have to use the mobility scooter (on a good day) or she pushes me in the wheelchair. 😞

As for making a list for when they come home? dd2 wouldn’t be able to regularly come home as the uni she wants to go to is far away, she doesn't drive and public transport would take 5hrs. dd1 has suddenly decided that she wants nothing to do with me now she’s at uni and I need help. I am not even sure she will come home for Christmas this year. 😢 I can’t imagine dd2 ever being like that but practically speaking she would only be able to come home during holidays. Tbh it wouldn’t surprise me if dd2 chooses not to go to uni because she knows I will have no support if she does. I really don’t want that for her and keep encouraging her to go, but unlike dd1 (who has always struggled with empathy and is apparently now seeking an assessment for autism), dd2 is super empathetic, almost to her own detriment. I guess time will tell.