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hypno06

I agree with shell_girl on this one, the signs of over tiredness and depression overlap somewhat.

Can you either share the "night shift" with K with Ste, (yes, I know he won't want to do it either, but it is a shared responsibility) for a couple of nights, or speak to the health visitor and try and find out if there is any underlying problem with K.

The chances are that it is simply grumply child and tired mummy. Not easy, but sadly one of those things us mums just have to work with. Some may not agree with me, but when this happened with us we were advised by the HV to let her go through the controlled crying too - it was bloody difficult for two or three nights, but DD soon learnt that mummy wouldn't come running. We did go and speak to the neighbours first, to apologise in advance for the noise!!

Hugs xx

Lucy1982_2

Hi IA.

Sounds like your having fun with K. All I can say is when I was little I wouldn't sleep. Bless my Mum but the most sleep she got was around 3 hrs a night. I was on the child form of Valium (?) But my Dr apparently told my parents that so long as I couldn't hurt myself then to let me run myself out, eventually I would get tried and go to sleep.

Maybe it's not much help but things will get better.

Take care love x

doodledo_2

Morning Sar sending some big (((hugs))).

Like the others have said it sounds like you need a bloody good sleep. I know its easy to say take it in turns with Ste but if you are anything like me I know even if hubby takes his turn I still wake up so sleep still interrupted. Is there anyone who could have the girls just for one night to give you both a full nights sleep?

My little girl is a brilliant sleeper but has had her moments and I too used the controlled crying method, particularly when I took her milk off her she was used to getting.

It broke my heart listening to her but it definately worked for us and she now sleeps 12-13 hours solid.

Once Ste gets up think you should hand the girls over and try and catch a few hours kip hun.

immoral_angeluk

doodledo wrote: »

Morning Sar sending some big (((hugs))).

Like the others have said it sounds like you need a bloody good sleep. I know its easy to say take it in turns with Ste but if you are anything like me I know even if hubby takes his turn I still wake up so sleep still interrupted. Is there anyone who could have the girls just for one night to give you both a full nights sleep?

My little girl is a brilliant sleeper but has had her moments and I too used the controlled crying method, particularly when I took her milk off her she was used to getting.

It broke my heart listening to her but it definately worked for us and she now sleeps 12-13 hours solid.

Once Ste gets up think you should hand the girls over and try and catch a few hours kip hun.

I would go back to bed but ste's gone to work. We do both take turns in getting up to ger but I wake up regardless. I would have a doze on the sofa but I just no K would come up and poke me in the eye or something... kids eh?

Ellidee

:grouphug: :kisses3: So sorry you're feeling cr*p hon. I can only agree that everything seems so much worse when you're tired. As others have said don't be so hard on yourself and get some help if poss. XX

poodlehorse

Another vote for controlled crying here. I know it isn't easy to do as you break your heart listening to them cry (I had my head under the pillow while DH listened to make sure he was ok as I couldn't stand it) and it is definitely best if the two of you can tag team it. Ste and you need to brace yourself for a few more rough nights for it to work but better to do that now when you just might have enough in you still to do it than in a month's time when you just feel like you can't. It would be helpful if Ste was off work for it so one can sleep through the day a bit and be fresher for night. I know it might wake Ash but a few nights of her being up as well might be better than this cycle continuing when you can maybe nip it in the bud now as it will only get worse if K keeps knowing you will come to her. Even if Ash ends up with you and Ste and K is left to howl, warning the neighbours might be a good plan. I know this sounds like the worst plan in the world right now - oh great another few nights with maybe even less sleep - but it should work. Ste has to be on board with you 100% too as he can't expect to get his sleep while you deal with all this, you work too and I don't just mean Argos, you are responsible for 2 under 3s and that is a huge task you need your rest to prepare you for each day. Does K have a winding down routine before bed? And remember HVs are there for just this sort of thing, I am sure I have heard of a local one sleeping over so she could assess the problem herself. There is an organisation for just this thing too- Cry-sis . Why not give them a ring and see what they can suggest. 08451 228669 open 9am-10pm 7 days a week. Good luck, I have had my fair share of sleep deprivation and DH works away for a month at a time so it has felt like I wouldn't make it a few times. And then one good nights sleep and your whole mindset can change. Of course I only have one Ash's age to deal with so I don't have any first hand knowledge of how hard it can be with two
Hugs xx

lauradora

:grouphug:

Bless you luvvie. can you all get your head down for an hour maybe??

immoral_angeluk

lauradora wrote: »

:grouphug:

Bless you luvvie. can you all get your head down for an hour maybe??

Nope, Ash doesn't have naps anymore and ste's at work.

immoral_angeluk

found this news report which sounded interesting..
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/1963899.stm

spud30

immoral_angeluk wrote: »

Nope, Ash doesn't have naps anymore and ste's at work.

What about putting an Iggle Piggle DVD on repeat