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Child Trust Fund - parents have spent
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p00hsticks said:claireAs executor of the wills of both parents I feel some responsibility to ensure he receives his legacies in accordance with their wishes.
I suspect that the CTF quoted in the OP's opening post wasn't a no-access until 18 CTF but something else, possibly an ordinary savings account.1 -
Do you have proof that it was definitely withdrawn from the child trust fund? Has the 18 year old contacted the provider? I ask because we found it difficult to get my son's child trust fund and it was showing as zero, but that's because it had been transferred to something else and it wasn't straight forward to track it down. Also, over the years the provider changed but we always got letters and yearly statements.
Or has the mother admitted that she's accessed it?Debt Free: 01/01/2020
Mortgage: 11/09/20240 -
wmb194 said:p00hsticks said:claireAs executor of the wills of both parents I feel some responsibility to ensure he receives his legacies in accordance with their wishes.
I suspect that the CTF quoted in the OP's opening post wasn't a no-access until 18 CTF but something else, possibly an ordinary savings account.0 -
You may want to check that the CTF is where you think it is:
https://www.gov.uk/child-trust-funds/find-a-child-trust-fund1 -
Over 18 years there were quite a few changes to CTF including takeovers of providers etc. If parents didn't keep track, or moved and didn't update their address records it is likely the money is still in an account somewhere.1
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LinLui said:To be fair, £10k is very litttle money over 10 years and if it's the father you are all related to, perhaps you should be pointing out that he was supposed to step up and support his child? As you say, he lives abroad and has provided limited support. Instead of seeking to blame the mother for this, perhaps you should be looking at your relatives (previous and ongoing) lack of support for their child. Here's an idea - he could step up to securte his own childs future instead of expecting everyone else to do it for him.FWIW I completely agree with you about the father’s behaviour. He’s a complete (insert word of choice here) and I’m ashamed of the way he’s acted. He’s been told this in no uncertain terms. But I’m related to him not responsible for him so …?I think asking any parent where the money you have given their child has gone is a reasonable ask really.1
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Update: many thanks to those who have taken the time to respond. I’ve had a chat with his mum over the weekend (we’re on good terms) and she’s admitted some problematic behaviour which I won’t detail on here. Long story short the money was never deposited in nephew’s trust as we were told but directly into his parents accounts from where it has been spent. We’re working on getting back what money we can. Nephew continues to plan for a slightly different future but is the absolute best thing to come from this whole sorry mess really.3
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claireS_2 said:Update: many thanks to those who have taken the time to respond. I’ve had a chat with his mum over the weekend (we’re on good terms) and she’s admitted some problematic behaviour which I won’t detail on here. Long story short the money was never deposited in nephew’s trust as we were told but directly into his parents accounts from where it has been spent. We’re working on getting back what money we can. Nephew continues to plan for a slightly different future but is the absolute best thing to come from this whole sorry mess really.2
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marcia_ said:p00hsticks said:claireAs executor of the wills of both parents I feel some responsibility to ensure he receives his legacies in accordance with their wishes.2
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