Evicting adult son as we are selling up and moving away.

Tallulah_Chicken

Are you or your son getting any kind of help from Adult social services? If he is requiring care to some extent (and it sounds as though he is) then you and your son have the right to an assessment of your needs (both him as a disabled person and you as a carer). Importantly, you have the right not to care for him. A care package can then be put in place for him which may include help with finding a suitable home. You might find it useful to speak to Carers UK who will help you navigate all of this. 

RHemmings

I'm interested in the suggestion of buying the son a cheap (relatively, it's property) flat. Either to rent to him, or to gift to him. If the son is able to manage his finances well, and has a job, then this might put him in a very good position indeed, particulalry if the flat could be gifted as early inheritance. It would depend on whether the OP could afford to do so without significantly compromising their own plans. 

The flat would almost certainly be leasehold, and leasehold can be problematic. 

My interest is not just curiosity. I have mentioned on here before (don't expect anyone to remember ) that my long term plan is to buy my son a property. So, given some discussion has already been in that direction, I would be interested if this thread continues helping the OP by considering that possibility as well. 

FlorayG

OP please take notice of what stu12345_2 says, he clearly understands the social and private housing situation. 
If you are unable to buy your son a flat then I think your only options are 
1) investigate the 'special needs' route, or
2) he will have to take lodgings and live in a room on somebody else's house until he gets a job and can afford to rent a flat himself

stu12345_2

if you buy a flat in Scotland , it's feuhold, not leasehold.
it's like freehold , but with a feuhold superior still having. an interest in the flat.
I am Scottish myself and would if I could buy in Scotland, not in England a flat

YoungBlueEyes

dawn6656 said:

Long story, here goes... We are recently retired and have decided to sell up and move abroad. We have been wanting to do this for the past 5 years but have had family commitments and health problems.  I recently lost my aunt and soon after my dad whom I cared for.  We now have no reason to wait. However, my son (24) is still living with us and does not want to move away with us.  He is unemployed, mildly autistic, has extreme social anxieties and medical issues. He can look after himself really well without help and is good with his finances. He has not been a problem and we love him very much. 

He has been in touch with the Council who informed him that we need to 'evict' him so that he can get social housing. We have done this by email but the council has come back and said that this is not enough.  He can be difficult to talk to if things dont go smoothly and will only talk to hubby.  He asked his dad if we can look into it.  We cannot find much out online and I will call CAB in the morning. But am just wondering if anyone had any advice or point us in the right direction.  Many thanks in anticipation.

I'm treading carefully here because I know next to nothing about autism/social anxieties.

Could hubby suggest a holiday for the 3 of you to the place you'd like to move to? Perhaps if he saw it in the flesh he wouldn't be against moving, presuming his reaction is just against change rather than actively wanting to stay in the UK. If he does want to stay in the UK I'd buy him a place if you can afford to. It'd give him security and you peace of mind while you're hundreds of miles away. If at all possible I'd avoid the council/social housing route, for the reasons stated above - they aren't likely (or able) to give your son exactly what he wants/needs as quickly as you'd like. Funds allowing I'd do the whole thing myself.

You say he is unemployed, but could he work? Contacting a few charities that have suitable knowledge and experience of people with your son's issues would be invaluable I'd think.

sheramber

stu12345_2 said:

if you buy a flat in Scotland , it's feuhold, not leasehold.
it's like freehold , but with a feuhold superior still having. an interest in the flat.
I am Scottish myself and would if I could buy in Scotland, not in England a flat

Fueduty was abolished in 2000. 

There are a few flats still leasehold but the majority are freehold.

Jemma01

My advice to you is to start by helping him get a job. Since he's good at managing finances, the next bit would be to find him a flat to rent. I also strongly agree with those saying look at what support he can get for his condition to support him financially as well. If the council can pay part of his rent, that would be great. So I'd knock on doors for support, but most importantly help him find a job. I have a neighbour who's got severe learning difficulties, they were afraid to let her work but she's now been working for over 15 years and doing great for herself.

I'm sure it is easier for us to say, and I'm sure you've tried your best to get him to find a job, I think the dynamics is a little different now as you're ready to commit to your plans, so I hope your son will understand that and give it a chance.