Should I ask that my brother in law pays a share towards holiday accommodation?

SHC33

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Pollycat

If the accommodation sleeps 5 and there are 5 adults, where is the 3 year old child going to sleep?

Tony5896

For me it would depend on when the decision by the brother was made ..

If it was a case of, no not coming ... then after payment .. Oh I think I will ..
Or if you booked/paid and the brother wasn't aware/understood  and asked to come ..

I know my brother waits until after an event like that is all sorted and paid then decides he would like to come along with his whole entourage ..  

SHC33

The 3 Yr old can sleep with us in our room on a travel bed  

SHC33

Should have clarified, the balance isn't due yet and will be paid next week. Holiday is in 6 weeks

Debbie9009

So he hasn’t offered any payment ? That would really bother me, does he have a history of not paying his share ? 

Yes I think he should pay his share, I’m assuming he will be taking the room you had originally intended for your child, meaning you now have less space and less privacy.

Honestly I don’t think you should even have to ask, he should have offered to pay when he asked to join you.

Brie

Fine if he doesn't pay for the accommodation but he should be paying a mighty big portion of other expenses.  Maybe petrol if he's not driving separately, take everyone out, buy in food and drink if it's self catering.  These things get more expensive with an extra person whereas the cottage costs whatever it costs if it's 1 or 10.  

LightFlare

SHC33 said:

The 3 Yr old can sleep with us in our room on a travel bed  

you may be in breach of the T&Cs. 

does it say sleeps 5 (as per your OP) or sleeps 5 adults

If the former, as above, you already have 5 without him

SHC33

LightFlare said:

SHC33 said:

The 3 Yr old can sleep with us in our room on a travel bed  

you may be in breach of the T&Cs. 

does it say sleeps 5 (as per your OP) or sleeps 5 adults

If the former, as above, you already have 5 without him

I hadn't even thought of that! I will check now. 

Spendless

What's BIL's situation eg is he a 17yo at sixth form and only a w/end job as income or an adult working f-time?  

maman

For clarification, are the parents paying a share? 🤔 I wondered whether the BIL might think you'd rented for your own family originally and had space for his parents and so perhaps him as well. So, a bit like inviting them to stay in your home.