My Neighbour is a raging Alcoholic...she admits it!!

Peterrr

My dad tried to help out someone in a similar situation - after a succession of events the addict ended up a lodger. Things started to go missing and Dad eventually found they had taken out fraudulent loans in his name. When he confronted them, they falsely accused him of assault and he's currently in the ridiculous position where the police have prohibited him from going near his own home while they investigate the accusation. 
This type will self-destruct and take anyone nearby down with them.

Mustbeananswer??

Peterrr said:

My dad tried to help out someone in a similar situation - after a succession of events the addict ended up a lodger. Things started to go missing and Dad eventually found they had taken out fraudulent loans in his name. When he confronted them, they falsely accused him of assault and he's currently in the ridiculous position where the police have prohibited him from going near his own home while they investigate the accusation. 
This type will self-destruct and take anyone nearby down with them.

This is not a good situation for your Dad....I am sorry to hear this.The self destruct  part has already happened ...thanks for the heads up.

pinkshoes

It's very difficult to help someone with MH problems.

I tried helping someone a few years ago who was also "the nicest person", but once I became their sticking plaster then unless I did what they wanted which quite frankly wasn't always possible, then I became the target of their nasty comments and criticism which was demoralising and not good for my own MH. In the end I walked away. Then started the accusations that I'd abandoned them, just like everyone else in their life...

If a person isn't willing to help themselves, then you can't help them. 

Perhaps put some leaflets with advice through the door on where to turn to if you must, but other than that I'd stay clear.

Mustbeananswer??

pinkshoes said:

It's very difficult to help someone with MH problems.

I tried helping someone a few years ago who was also "the nicest person", but once I became their sticking plaster then unless I did what they wanted which quite frankly wasn't always possible, then I became the target of their nasty comments and criticism which was demoralising and not good for my own MH. In the end I walked away. Then started the accusations that I'd abandoned them, just like everyone else in their life...

If a person isn't willing to help themselves, then you can't help them. 

Perhaps put some leaflets with advice through the door on where to turn to if you must, but other than that I'd stay clear.

Thank You  

Xenon

Why get involved - what has her business/problems got to do with you

You are just inviting problems that are not yours.

Deal with your own life - let her deal with hers.

Stay out of it.

london21

You can not help someone who does not want to be helped. 

When she is ready, she will change.