Lodgers bf always showering at my house

hollylou83

My lodgers bf keeps coming round just to shower if he is going somewhere near where we live, he also drives past his house (he lives with parents) on a Saturday to shower at my house for them to go out. She doesn’t have a contract - what should I do?  She pays to live with me - not him 

elsien

Just tell him no. Your house, your rules.

Mr.Generous

No cash, no splash.

ThisIsWeird

Tell her to tell him, no.
If necessary, take it to it's logical conclusion - just how many friends and family does she think could come round to use your water and energy?
If she is anything other than hugely contrite and understanding, then warning bells.

AlexMac

She doesn’t need a contract. But you could define a lodger agreement whether oral or written. (Google it). Lodgers don’t really have rights- just DONT  call it a “tenancy” as that might give her some

My granddaughter wrote her own lodger agreement when she took in a lodger. Upfront about detail such as shared / dedicated spaces, what was shared or personal in the fridge ( she suggested the rent include basics like tea or spices or milk), and the biggie of boy/girlfriends staying overnight. 

 They still fell out over the lodger washing a single sheet in the w/m, mess in the kitchen and the lodger’s tendency to fill the bins with up to eight or ten deliveroos a weekend (how unhealthy can some people eat?)

but at least the big issues were pre -set. 

And they didn’t include running a public baths. 

You need to talk, difficult though you may find that   And either restrict the cleano bf’s ablutions or adjust the rent if you are happy to tolerate it.  Whether or not you write it down as a “ Lodger Agreement “

After all, he probably doesn’t realise he’s taking the p155  If he lives with his mum he probably thinks water, electricity and gas is free

propertyrental

Do you provide her with a room? Does she pay you rent in return? Then yes, of course she has a contract. It's verbal as opposed to written, but legally just as enforceable.

Regarding the bf (and maybe other factors) you need to have a sensible conversation with the lodger and set down the ground rules. You could agree to bf showering when he visits her, or not more than once a week, or you could just say 'no showering'.

Does he stay over? Are you happy with that?

Frankly, you really should have a short written contract (rent, weekly/monthly, notice period etc) and also some pretty clear ground rules for living in your home. These could be verbal (ideally at the start of the contract to avoid misunderstandings like this) or better still, written.

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NB all the above assumes you are in England. Scotland for example has very different rules.

wjr4

Get a written contract done asap. There’s a template for about £7 on the spare room website. 

Bookworm105

why are you unable to say stop?
it's your house, your rules.

Does the BF have a key or is the lodger letting him in each time? You have to have an adult conversation with both people, no one else can sort things for you.