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Taking child's friend on holiday

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What's best practice on this? Getting to the point where our youngest is on their own coming on holiday with us, and they'd probably prefer to take a friend. 
Now as this is doing us a favour and a benefit to my child I'd be happy to pay for them. However, if my child was invited then I wouldn't be comfortable having another parent paying for them.
We've known the parent a long time, but no idea what their finances would be like and if it would be affordable.
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  • Savvy_Sue
    Savvy_Sue Posts: 46,254 Forumite
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    I'd say best practice would be to ask them, and think of all the 'what ifs' you can beforehand - I'd prefer to pay for all the admissions, ice creams and treats myself, accepting anything the other parent gave me gratefully while insisting it wasn't necessary. But if the other child wanted to buy souvenirs, postcards etc then having their own money could be good, but talk about it. 

    If my child was invited to go with another family, again I'd talk about it: I'd definitely want to offer something, but would recognise that their holiday plans might well eclipse ours! 

    The only direct comparison I can offer is that I used to take extra children out for the day, and I'd always make it clear that I was paying for admission, meals, ice creams, but if they wanted to bring souvenirs home they'd need their own money. 
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  • HampshireH
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    Perhaps outline what you're offering as a starting point recognising your points above and that it would be doing you a favour. Explain they would just need a little spending money.

    Then let the other parent graciously accept or protest and negotiate their contribution
  • Sea_Shell
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    Is this a UK holiday?


    Otherwise you'd have to also consider other issues like travel insurance and consent letters.


    As for costs, talk it through and discuss what is appropriate and affordable for everyone.

    Don't promise the kids something that you can't deliver.
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  • annabanana82
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    Sea_Shell said:
    Is this a UK holiday?


    Otherwise you'd have to also consider other issues like travel insurance and consent letters.


    As for costs, talk it through and discuss what is appropriate and affordable for everyone.

    Don't promise the kids something that you can't deliver.
    Sea_Shell said:
    Is this a UK holiday?


    Otherwise you'd have to also consider other issues like travel insurance and consent letters.


    As for costs, talk it through and discuss what is appropriate and affordable for everyone.

    Don't promise the kids something that you can't deliver.
    This would be a foreign holiday, the friend would be 16 at point of travel, but I had seen another thread on here discussing letters of consent.
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  • Savvy_Sue
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    At 16, you certainly need to discuss what the teens can do on their own, rather than expecting them to be under your direct supervision 24/7 ...
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    Savvy_Sue said:
    At 16, you certainly need to discuss what the teens can do on their own, rather than expecting them to be under your direct supervision 24/7 ...
    Yes, I had expected they'd have a lot more freedom than being with us 24/7. Thankfully they are both quite sensible and family oriented so wouldn't have too many concerns about them up to mischief or drinking. 
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    Savvy_Sue said:
    At 16, you certainly need to discuss what the teens can do on their own, rather than expecting them to be under your direct supervision 24/7 ...
    Yes, I had expected they'd have a lot more freedom than being with us 24/7. Thankfully they are both quite sensible and family oriented so wouldn't have too many concerns about them up to mischief or drinking. 
    Yes, but there will be BOYS. All bets are off when there are BOYS!  :open_mouth:

    (I only had boys, which was a relief in some ways when they hit their teens, and they were not really typical boys, but there were lots of discussions about how to behave when out with your mates!) 
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  • annabanana82
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    Savvy_Sue said:
    Savvy_Sue said:
    At 16, you certainly need to discuss what the teens can do on their own, rather than expecting them to be under your direct supervision 24/7 ...
    Yes, I had expected they'd have a lot more freedom than being with us 24/7. Thankfully they are both quite sensible and family oriented so wouldn't have too many concerns about them up to mischief or drinking. 
    Yes, but there will be BOYS. All bets are off when there are BOYS!  :open_mouth:

    (I only had boys, which was a relief in some ways when they hit their teens, and they were not really typical boys, but there were lots of discussions about how to behave when out with your mates!) 
    My sons are sensible, it's the Daughter I've had to worry about she can be a nightmare. There are some of his friends I wouldn't entertain taking but, my Son and his friend are like two old men. 
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  • sheramber
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    I would think you pay for the travel and the holiday, any  trips, meals   or  other expenses  but the child has his own pocket money for spending.

    officially you should have a letter of permission from his  parents which contains their contact details.

    You may not need it but it is better to have it , just in case. 

    I think their os a template online somewhere.

    It would also be worth having authority to authorise  any urgent medical treatment should the need arise.

    He will either need his pwn travel insurance or you may need a group policy since he is not pa member of your family.

  • annabanana82
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    sheramber said:
    I would think you pay for the travel and the holiday, any  trips, meals   or  other expenses  but the child has his own pocket money for spending.

    officially you should have a letter of permission from his  parents which contains their contact details.

    You may not need it but it is better to have it , just in case. 

    I think their os a template online somewhere.

    It would also be worth having authority to authorise  any urgent medical treatment should the need arise.

    He will either need his pwn travel insurance or you may need a group policy since he is not pa member of your family.

    Thank you, I ended up getting group insurance this year as we had our adult child travelling with us
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