Jubilant June's No-Spend Days Challenge!

Worlds_Worst_Superhero

It's Monday today and I (think) I've managed 19 NSD so far. 

I've not checked in for over a week, it's been a really busy time- birthdays, exams, end of term, Leavers Prom...

I've had 5 quite spendy days this month, all planned for and budgeted for. Spends this week :

Theatre tickets for a birthday treat;
Thank You/.Leaving presents for my son's teachers. They were there for all of us after he had a bit of a mental and emotional wobble during lockdown and we have them to thank for getting him through to the other side and helping him secure an unconditional offer on his chosen course at the university he wanted;
Money given to son for drinks at Prom and taxi home from the pub afterward.

Thank you for the kind messages regarding the prom outfit. To cut a long story short, he found his prom suit, shoes and all accessories in a charity shop. I imagined that when the time came, I'd feel bad that I sent him off to Prom in secondhand gear. I need not have worried, he looked amazing and so damn happy!
I don't know if it how I can post pics here.

SecondStar

Up to 23 NSDs

KajiKita

Oh @HotDog2020, it takes such courage to share what you have here. It doesn’t sound like your relationship with your mum is particularly positive for you, but you also sound a bit isolated. Maybe expanding your social network would help you feel more secure and dilute the impact of her perceptions of you?

Sending hugs x

KajiKita

NSD Monday here. Had to buy subscription toothpaste tablets but I’m counting that as an essential. 

KK

beanielou

KajiKita said:

Oh @HotDog2020, it takes such courage to share what you have here. It doesn’t sound like your relationship with your mum is particularly positive for you, but you also sound a bit isolated. Maybe expanding your social network would help you feel more secure and dilute the impact of her perceptions of you?

Sending hugs x

From me too. Have you thought about meet up groups to socialise.
Maybe a wee bit of distance would be good for a wee whiime?
Have you heard of Andy's men's club? 

cathybird

@HotDog2020 agreed with @beanie and @KajiKita, it takes real courage to talk about these things. It sounds as though you are really battling some difficult stuff. Back in the day I found therapy hugely useful for dealing with some issues. It does cost, and is a investment in time and patience too, but it can really help with dealing with tricky family relationships (it helped me, anyway). Is it worth considering? Just a thought. xx

cathybird

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June targets

AuntieL 11/12        

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beanielou 19/19         

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Caeraugirl 7/15      

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cathybird 20/15             

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Crazycatlady2 20/18              

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Daywon 2/20  

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Farmers-wife 2 6/10      

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Geriatricmum

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HotDog2020 8/15      

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ilovetea 6/10      

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KajiKita 20/18              

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keggie 1/15 

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laconic 10

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laura lau

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laurenh 15/20          

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leftatthetrafficlights 17/24          

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LittleMissDetermined 16/18          

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Makingabobor2 15/15        

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Money Choices

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Mrs Cautious 9/20      

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Rupacomp 5/15     

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Saver-upper 3/10   

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SecondStar 23/17              

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short bird 18/18         

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Tiangfeng2022 10

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Worlds Worst Superhero 19/20          

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cathybird

June results updated here

cathybird

Well done beanie, LittleMissDetermined, Makingabobor2, laurenh1, leftatthetrafficlights, Worlds Worst Superhero, SecondStar and KajiKita

Worlds_Worst_Superhero

 Hello @HotDog2020

Echoing what others have said, it sounds as if you are trying to please everyone else and in doing so, are not focussing on your needs.

Have you thought about doing something just for you- a hobby, interest, or activity? If you're not sure exactly what you'd like to do, perhaps go along to a social meet-up, walking group or open craft group. Your local community Facebook group will likely have details of these, or you could ask at your local library. A quick Google will bring up lists of groups and activities going on near you.

I'm not sure if what your mum insinuated about your weight were meant to be hurtful, but any personal comment like that is bound to sting a bit.
Are you concerned about your health? If you are, there are specialists and support groups who can help with all sorts, from gentle exercise groups for beginners, counselling, dealing with emotional eating etc. Your GP or practice nurse will.have a list of groups you can ring yourself or can refer you if you ask.

If you want an occasional moan, feel free to rant away on this site!
I'd love to hear all about any new hobbies, interests 
and social groups you're excited about starting 😊