finding birth mum

Charis

192.com is out of date (for e.g. I'm on there, but at my old address 200+ miles away) It is no longer allowed to access all the electoral roll details following a change in the law. Because of the change, a lot of people now opt out of their details being made public, so public access local electoral rolls may not contain all local details.

Have you tried the Salvation Army missing person's service? http://www.look4them.org.uk/salvation-army.html and http://www1.salvationarmy.org.uk/familytracing

Charis

PS I've just had a closer look at the site and they say they don't look for people 'in situations where an adoption has taken place' :-( But they may know how to get started. It might be worth a phone call.
I see they also don't trace the fathers of children born outside marriage, yet I have a strong feeling that is the reason they started the service in the first place, because women were being left destitute.

Kimberley

Sola wrote: »

Be prepared for potential disappointment though; mine eventually rejected me again. Think through all the ramifications before you make any steps because it may not end the way you want (there again it might).

How sad for you, but as a survivor you have done well without them so far, so it's their loss.

Goodluck to you also Bella, hope it's a happy ending.

bella165

thanks for all the responces,i do know she wants to see me as she fort for me not to be adopted.she wanted me just fostered and my os adopted,and left a letter for me with my am till i was 18.what i never got as the shed it was kept in was set on fire years ago.thanks every one,

MissEyre

Good luck Bella, I hope you have a happy ending

Sammz

the_devil_made_me_do_it wrote: »

That site crashes if you enter a person's details

The Search Messageboards works ok. I posted the link more to give an idea of how to go about searching.

Sola

Bella - got your PM. Will work on it this weekend.

the_devil_made_me_do_it

Kimberley wrote: »

How sad for you, but as a survivor you have done well without them so far, so it's their loss.

Goodluck to you also Bella, hope it's a happy ending.

hmm "it's their loss".... not a particularly informed thing to say. Their could be any number of reasons the Op was adopted. Adoption can cause great sdaness from all sides. Please bear that in mind.

the_devil_made_me_do_it

bella165 wrote: »

thanks for all the responces,i do know she wants to see me as she fort for me not to be adopted.she wanted me just fostered and my os adopted,and left a letter for me with my am till i was 18.what i never got as the shed it was kept in was set on fire years ago.thanks every one,

good thing to take note of Kimberly before you pass judgement on the "birth parents".

I'm pleased she wants you to contact her bella. I'll be thinking of you and sending hugs.

JustKeepSwimming_2

I traced my birth mother last year mostly through Norcap a charity that deals with adoption. They were so helpful & I had a morning with a researcher in the Norcap office (in Whitney, Oxfordshire) which taught me the basics & let me use all of their resources. I think it cost £25 to join, but they are a charity & will happily take a nominal donation.

Don't underestimate the emotional upheavel - I'm still struggling with "things" even though I am in regular contact with my birth mother! Again Norcap were great, as there are so many people who know exactly what you are talking about & can help you see the light!

Good Luck!

sockospice

Or you could try https://www.afteradoption.org.uk their helplines are really good and they will give you practical advice about tracing: depending on where you live they may also be able to help you trace.