Money Moral Dilemma: Should my son ask for another pay rise on top of his recent one?

Spendless

LP53 said:

It may have already been factored in but won’t hurt for him to ask as it’s not unreasonable to do so.
There’s nothing wrong with the person asking advise for her son. Perhaps he asked his mum her opinion and she decided to ask us. He still is young and some people young or old struggle with assertiveness when asking questions to their boss.
Some people ask what their husbands should do etc.

Agreed, the minute you ask about something an adult child has probably asked for your help/advice on and you want to ask a wider audience their opinions you get this. It doesn't seem to happen if you ask about any other relative, whether that's spouse, parent, sibling etc.

I know quite a lot of people in the same predicament as the OP's son. The latest NMW has pushed people who were earning quite a bit above it, to only just above or even on NMW, wage increase or not . I'm unsure if employers have been oblivious to this or just aren't bothered. 

If he doesn't feel comfortable raising it as a separate issue, then do it at next review. 

cr1mson

When was he given this payrise? If the forthcoming NMW changes were known at this point he runs the risk of looking like he was ill prepared for his performance review. It may be that the employer was cynical and thought we will offer him something that looks great but in reality not as much due to these changes or alternatively they may also have been equally ill-prepared.

I think this is a lesson learned to make sure he goes into any future reviews properly prepared!

Jason9091

It seems odd to me how many comments here are so critical about this mother and son who they have never met. No doubt the young man simply asked his family for some advice, which is a perfectly normal thing to do.

Jason9091

[Deleted User] said:

Let go, mummy, it isn't your concern.

Clearly she is concerned as she's asked on here. Believe it or not, most parents take an interest in their children when they ask for advice, even when their child is the ripe old age of 22.

Admiral_Barbarossa

If you want a pay rise, you go out the door and slam it behind you!