What can you expect of you want to buy a different home?

eddddy

Just start looking at other properties. (It's up to you whether you tell your current sellers or not.)

If you find one you like, and might want to make an offer on...

• 1) Try to establish how committed the new sellers are to selling, what their timescale is likely to be etc

• 2) Review the situation with your current sellers, to see if there's been any progress, or likely to be any progress

• 3) If you decide that the new property is a better bet, make an offer on it.

• 4) If your offer is accepted on the new property, withdraw from the current purchase

Albermarle

I am thinking of delivering this ultimatum this coming week if I don't hear something positive by Wednesday at midday. I'm going to say I want a date by the end of the month or I will be forced to search for another home.

What's the likelihood of anything happening between now and Wednesday ? Sounds like about zero.

So you might as well start searching RightMove etc now, and inform the sellers/EA on Monday morning that you are seriously starting to look at other properties due to the delays/lack of progress.

As others said, probably best not to issue ultimatums as such, not yet anyway.

peterhjohnson

GDB2222 said:

 There’s a formal exchange process that the solicitors do over the phone. They check with their clients before going ahead with exchange.

Indeed. On three occasions, my solicitor rang me to say she was intending to exchange today and did I still want to proceed? The second time, I told her not to bother calling again and to just get on with it but she insisted that she had to call me on every day that she was attempting to exchange.

TheJP

OP are you selling a property as well or are you an FTB? Are you restricted by time or could you wait? Possibly letting the EA know that you are looking at other properties and maybe view 1 or 2 with that EA to help the cause may make the vendors act a bit faster. If you can wait and you like the house then don't play your hand too early by threatening to pull out as you are no special that the next potential buyer.

Smalltownhypocrite

You might have to walk.

We had the same, wasted 6 months on a property the agreed to sell but clearly had no intention of actually selling. There comes a point where you just have to move on.

Smalltownhypocrite

elsien said:

Dannydee333 said:

It's now gone past the 5-month mark since we agreed on the sale, and the sellers still have not figured out what they are doing among themselves. They are splitting up, won't communicate with each other, and are holding things up.

Yet another weekend has arrived with no update as to what they are up to. So, I'm almost ready to tell them they can shove their home as I am feeling rather disrespected now and I am becoming more and more convinced that they no longer deserve my money.

I have my eye on a few that I like, and I'm going to call in the morning about at least one of them, with the potential of making a preliminary offer.

I have signed the contract on my end, but the vendor has not. What will happen if I want to change the home I want to buy?

1. Will the lender be understanding of the circumstances and allow this? (it's Accord)
2. Is it possible to transfer proceedings to a new home?
3. Are there financial implications?
4. What else should I consider?

My solicitor has advised me to threaten the vendor that I am about to withdraw if we can't get a completion date penned in, and I am thinking of delivering this ultimatum this coming week if I don't hear something positive by Wednesday at midday. I'm going to say I want a date by the end of the month or I will be forced to search for another home.

But in the meantime, I really am going to make some calls and I would actually like to have another offer accepted in the interim so I can show the vendor I mean what I say.

Stop taking things personally. It’s nothing to do with respect or otherwise, or anyone being deserving of anything.

It’s a financial transaction. If they are divorcing then delays are purely down to the dynamics of their relationship.
if there is no sign of movement, then absolutely start looking for somewhere else. But any house purchase there is the possibility that at some point things will not go as you might wish them to.
Looking at other purchases because nothing is happening may be sensible. Looking at other properties because you feel “disrespected “ is not. 

Messing people about is absoloutly a point of disrespect. What they are saying is OP time doesn't matter only their feeling do. Their feeling within their private relationship have nothing to do with a financial transaction and they need to show more respect to no mess other people around.

elsien

Smalltownhypocrite said:

elsien said:

Dannydee333 said:

It's now gone past the 5-month mark since we agreed on the sale, and the sellers still have not figured out what they are doing among themselves. They are splitting up, won't communicate with each other, and are holding things up.

Yet another weekend has arrived with no update as to what they are up to. So, I'm almost ready to tell them they can shove their home as I am feeling rather disrespected now and I am becoming more and more convinced that they no longer deserve my money.

I have my eye on a few that I like, and I'm going to call in the morning about at least one of them, with the potential of making a preliminary offer.

I have signed the contract on my end, but the vendor has not. What will happen if I want to change the home I want to buy?

1. Will the lender be understanding of the circumstances and allow this? (it's Accord)
2. Is it possible to transfer proceedings to a new home?
3. Are there financial implications?
4. What else should I consider?

My solicitor has advised me to threaten the vendor that I am about to withdraw if we can't get a completion date penned in, and I am thinking of delivering this ultimatum this coming week if I don't hear something positive by Wednesday at midday. I'm going to say I want a date by the end of the month or I will be forced to search for another home.

But in the meantime, I really am going to make some calls and I would actually like to have another offer accepted in the interim so I can show the vendor I mean what I say.

Stop taking things personally. It’s nothing to do with respect or otherwise, or anyone being deserving of anything.

It’s a financial transaction. If they are divorcing then delays are purely down to the dynamics of their relationship.
if there is no sign of movement, then absolutely start looking for somewhere else. But any house purchase there is the possibility that at some point things will not go as you might wish them to.
Looking at other purchases because nothing is happening may be sensible. Looking at other properties because you feel “disrespected “ is not. 

Messing people about is absoloutly a point of disrespect. What they are saying is OP time doesn't matter only their feeling do. Their feeling within their private relationship have nothing to do with a financial transaction and they need to show more respect to no mess other people around.

The words "respect" and "disrespect" are flung around far too freely nowadays. To the point where people take umbrage over all sorts of things that really aren't worth getting riled up about. Or from an unwarranted sense of entitlement - not aimed at the OP just my views on people throwing words around that are losing their meaning and becoming trivialised from over use. 
However disrespect (where it really is that) is intentional and intended to upset. I very much doubt that this is the case here, however irksome to the OP.  And while no-one likes getting messed around, anyone buying or selling a house should really be thinking more with their head than with their hurt feelings. 

EssexHebridean

peterhjohnson said:

GDB2222 said:

 There’s a formal exchange process that the solicitors do over the phone. They check with their clients before going ahead with exchange.

Indeed. On three occasions, my solicitor rang me to say she was intending to exchange today and did I still want to proceed? The second time, I told her not to bother calling again and to just get on with it but she insisted that she had to call me on every day that she was attempting to exchange.

Yep - absolutely standard. We had this on several occasions as well. By the day we did finally exchange MrEH had said that it was absolutely fine for our solicitor to just check with me. And that one was simple enough - he’s my boss so he just asked me across the office (with a huge grin - he already knew there was no chance I was going to say we’d changed our minds!) 

propertyrental

elsien said:

Smalltownhypocrite said:

elsien said:

Dannydee333 said:

It's now gone past the 5-month mark since we agreed on the sale, and the sellers still have not figured out what they are doing among themselves. They are splitting up, won't communicate with each other, and are holding things up.

Yet another weekend has arrived with no update as to what they are up to. So, I'm almost ready to tell them they can shove their home as I am feeling rather disrespected now and I am becoming more and more convinced that they no longer deserve my money.

I have my eye on a few that I like, and I'm going to call in the morning about at least one of them, with the potential of making a preliminary offer.

I have signed the contract on my end, but the vendor has not. What will happen if I want to change the home I want to buy?

1. Will the lender be understanding of the circumstances and allow this? (it's Accord)
2. Is it possible to transfer proceedings to a new home?
3. Are there financial implications?
4. What else should I consider?

My solicitor has advised me to threaten the vendor that I am about to withdraw if we can't get a completion date penned in, and I am thinking of delivering this ultimatum this coming week if I don't hear something positive by Wednesday at midday. I'm going to say I want a date by the end of the month or I will be forced to search for another home.

But in the meantime, I really am going to make some calls and I would actually like to have another offer accepted in the interim so I can show the vendor I mean what I say.

Stop taking things personally. It’s nothing to do with respect or otherwise, or anyone being deserving of anything.

It’s a financial transaction. If they are divorcing then delays are purely down to the dynamics of their relationship.
if there is no sign of movement, then absolutely start looking for somewhere else. But any house purchase there is the possibility that at some point things will not go as you might wish them to.
Looking at other purchases because nothing is happening may be sensible. Looking at other properties because you feel “disrespected “ is not. 

Messing people about is absoloutly a point of disrespect. What they are saying is OP time doesn't matter only their feeling do. Their feeling within their private relationship have nothing to do with a financial transaction and they need to show more respect to no mess other people around.

The words "respect" and "disrespect" are flung around far too freely nowadays. To the point where people take umbrage over all sorts of things that really aren't worth getting riled up about. Or from an unwarranted sense of entitlement - not aimed at the OP just my views on people throwing words around that are losing their meaning and becoming trivialised from over use. 
However disrespect (where it really is that) is intentional and intended to upset. I very much doubt that this is the case here, however irksome to the OP.  And while no-one likes getting messed around, anyone buying or selling a house should really be thinking more with their head than with their hurt feelings. 

'my mental health' and 'human rights' jump to mind......

GDB2222

propertyrental said:

elsien said:

Smalltownhypocrite said:

elsien said:

Dannydee333 said:

It's now gone past the 5-month mark since we agreed on the sale, and the sellers still have not figured out what they are doing among themselves. They are splitting up, won't communicate with each other, and are holding things up.

Yet another weekend has arrived with no update as to what they are up to. So, I'm almost ready to tell them they can shove their home as I am feeling rather disrespected now and I am becoming more and more convinced that they no longer deserve my money.

I have my eye on a few that I like, and I'm going to call in the morning about at least one of them, with the potential of making a preliminary offer.

I have signed the contract on my end, but the vendor has not. What will happen if I want to change the home I want to buy?

1. Will the lender be understanding of the circumstances and allow this? (it's Accord)
2. Is it possible to transfer proceedings to a new home?
3. Are there financial implications?
4. What else should I consider?

My solicitor has advised me to threaten the vendor that I am about to withdraw if we can't get a completion date penned in, and I am thinking of delivering this ultimatum this coming week if I don't hear something positive by Wednesday at midday. I'm going to say I want a date by the end of the month or I will be forced to search for another home.

But in the meantime, I really am going to make some calls and I would actually like to have another offer accepted in the interim so I can show the vendor I mean what I say.

Stop taking things personally. It’s nothing to do with respect or otherwise, or anyone being deserving of anything.

It’s a financial transaction. If they are divorcing then delays are purely down to the dynamics of their relationship.
if there is no sign of movement, then absolutely start looking for somewhere else. But any house purchase there is the possibility that at some point things will not go as you might wish them to.
Looking at other purchases because nothing is happening may be sensible. Looking at other properties because you feel “disrespected “ is not. 

Messing people about is absoloutly a point of disrespect. What they are saying is OP time doesn't matter only their feeling do. Their feeling within their private relationship have nothing to do with a financial transaction and they need to show more respect to no mess other people around.

The words "respect" and "disrespect" are flung around far too freely nowadays. To the point where people take umbrage over all sorts of things that really aren't worth getting riled up about. Or from an unwarranted sense of entitlement - not aimed at the OP just my views on people throwing words around that are losing their meaning and becoming trivialised from over use. 
However disrespect (where it really is that) is intentional and intended to upset. I very much doubt that this is the case here, however irksome to the OP.  And while no-one likes getting messed around, anyone buying or selling a house should really be thinking more with their head than with their hurt feelings. 

'my mental health' and 'human rights' jump to mind......

Discrimination?