Resigning - going to be very awkward…

Emmia

RedfordML said:

TELLIT01 said:

Penguin_ said:

Be honest with them & just explain the role isn't right for you & you think it is better to leave now early doors rather than wait 9 months & then leave.

Be very careful with that approach.  The OP has already said they can't afford to be without an income.  Telling the employer they plan to leave at some indeterminate date in the future, could be enough for the employer to decide they don't want to spend any more time training them, and terminate their employment.

It's good to see somebody who is concerned about wasting the employers time and money, but they really do have to put their own needs at the top of the list.

Thanks for your reply. 

Does this advice mean, say nothing until I’ve got something else in place? Then be honest and say why I’m leaving? 

My second issue, is references? Leaving so early. Current line managers are really nice (nothing to do with them!) but would they want to write a ref for someone leaving so quickly? Would a school right me off - for having a ref not positive? 

Unknown,  but they might decide to write you off, on the basis of your English.

Most references just confirm the person worked for them between particular dates, and there were no issues. (If that's the case)

Emmia

Can I ask why you're thinking of returning to teaching, given you applied for a job/training in a completely different field and left teaching not that long ago.

To be honest I think you should stick with the current thing for 9+ months before handing your notice in.

New jobs and industries can be really difficult to get yourself into the groove (it takes time) and the uni aspect can make it tougher.

There was a reason you left teaching before, and I'd think about that quite hard before returning. 

TELLIT01

The advice means precisely what you think.  Say nothing at this stage.  There is nothing you can do really to affect any reference other than to work well whilst you are there.  When you do hand in your notice simply tell them that the job really isn't working out for you.  Don't say you have felt that way for months but have been looking for another job all that time. 

RedfordML

TELLIT01 said:

The advice means precisely what you think.  Say nothing at this stage.  There is nothing you can do really to affect any reference other than to work well whilst you are there.  When you do hand in your notice simply tell them that the job really isn't working out for you.  Don't say you have felt that way for months but have been looking for another job all that time. 

Brilliant, ty! 

RedfordML

2 weeks on, had an assessment and it was a lot of feedback about what I need to do…1 piece of very small positives 

I know what I need to do but I just can’t face the awkward conversations I have as the training aspect are setting up in service jobs as we speak and I feel a fraud. 

I’ve realised all the areas I need to improve on I’ve just not for the desire or effort I need to do it. My confidence is shot. I do worry for my working future as I did leave my last career thinking I needed out but I even when I write a list of pros and cons - it’s heavily weighted 

I’m just really struggling with how to approach work about this - I think they will be very upset and disappointed they have put all this effort and training into me and I’m walking so early…

Marcon

RedfordML said:

2 weeks on, had an assessment and it was a lot of feedback about what I need to do…1 piece of very small positives 

I know what I need to do but I just can’t face the awkward conversations I have as the training aspect are setting up in service jobs as we speak and I feel a fraud. 

I’ve realised all the areas I need to improve on I’ve just not for the desire or effort I need to do it. My confidence is shot. I do worry for my working future as I did leave my last career thinking I needed out but I even when I write a list of pros and cons - it’s heavily weighted 

I’m just really struggling with how to approach work about this - I think they will be very upset and disappointed they have put all this effort and training into me and I’m walking so early…

Better that, surely, than being mightily relieved that you've seen the light and quit, assuming you've accurately assessed the situation.

The graveyards are full of indispensable people. Your resignation might cause a bit of annoyance, but they'll get over it - and so will you. 

If you read your own post, you've got your answer. Just get on and stop prevaricating - things aren't going to improve.

RedfordML

I know you’re right, I’m a soft idiot though and will have to dig in to pull the trigger - I’ve just got to go for it! 

RedfordML said:

2 weeks on, had an assessment and it was a lot of feedback about what I need to do…1 piece of very small positives 

I know what I need to do but I just can’t face the awkward conversations I have as the training aspect are setting up in service jobs as we speak and I feel a fraud. 

I’ve realised all the areas I need to improve on I’ve just not for the desire or effort I need to do it. My confidence is shot. I do worry for my working future as I did leave my last career thinking I needed out but I even when I write a list of pros and cons - it’s heavily weighted 

I’m just really struggling with how to approach work about this - I think they will be very upset and disappointed they have put all this effort and training into me and I’m walking so early…

Better that, surely, than being mightily relieved that you've seen the light and quit, assuming you've accurately assessed the situation.

The graveyards are full of indispensable people. Your resignation might cause a bit of annoyance, but they'll get over it - and so will you. 

If you read your own post, you've got your answer. Just get on and stop prevaricating - things aren't going to improve.

Marcon said:

RedfordML said:

2 weeks on, had an assessment and it was a lot of feedback about what I need to do…1 piece of very small positives 

I know what I need to do but I just can’t face the awkward conversations I have as the training aspect are setting up in service jobs as we speak and I feel a fraud. 

I’ve realised all the areas I need to improve on I’ve just not for the desire or effort I need to do it. My confidence is shot. I do worry for my working future as I did leave my last career thinking I needed out but I even when I write a list of pros and cons - it’s heavily weighted 

I’m just really struggling with how to approach work about this - I think they will be very upset and disappointed they have put all this effort and training into me and I’m walking so early…

Better that, surely, than being mightily relieved that you've seen the light and quit, assuming you've accurately assessed the situation.

The graveyards are full of indispensable people. Your resignation might cause a bit of annoyance, but they'll get over it - and so will you. 

If you read your own post, you've got your answer. Just get on and stop prevaricating - things aren't going to improve.

Marcon

RedfordML said:

I know you’re right, I’m a soft idiot though and will have to dig in to pull the trigger - I’ve just got to go for it! 

Nobody really likes doing something they find difficult, so don't kick yourself for being part of a huge majority group!

Hoenir

Organisations very rapidly move on.