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  • Cheery_Daff
    Cheery_Daff Posts: 17,409 Forumite
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    I suppose technically LG doesn't HAVE to hand in their homework... (I'm speaking as a non-parent here...). What would the consequences if they don't? Do they learn something from doing it? Could they put in a bit less effort and still achieve the same overall result (ie 'some homework handed in')? 

    I'm not saying this is an ideal solution. I don't like homework for young kids either, and as you say it's really problematic give varying home situations. And I get both the many pressures on time outside education, and  the complete lack of motivation.

    Speaking as an educator of young adults, I confess it is practically impossible to force them to do anything outside of the classroom (and often impossible to force them to get in the classroom in the first place, but that's a different problem!) I'm in a different situation, but literally have NO sanctions for people who don't do 'homework'. HOWEVER... I see the benefit to the people who DO do it. It's circular of course - the ones who are motivated are the ones who do the work. But they're also the ones who are less confused later, the ones who learn more, and who become overall more interested in what they're doing.

    I do realise this is all different to forcing a small child to fill in yet another maths worksheet or draw a picture of the inside of the hoover cupboard (or whatever passes for homework these days). I suppose I'm just reacting to you saying it's unfair that LG has to do homework when others don't. It might well be - but hopefully they will reap some benefits. (And if they don't, maybe YOU will reap some benefits in the form of a nice big halo in the afterlife!)

    (Sorry, just got to the pub after a very long day and am in waffling mood!)
  • Greying_Pilgrim
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    Dearest Cheery - I think you are right - I don't think there is a 'sanction' as such for not doing homework.  It would be back pedalling of personal performance, and the knock on (or not) of consequences for that.  Secondary school is such a placement lottery anyway, it (seemingly) doesn't matter if you're clever or not, it's where you live and whichever way the wind is blowing on 'decision day' 🙄

    The head goes on about attendance - a lot.  And yes, for a wide variety of reasons, there are some children who's attendance is..... not consistent.  I have no idea what - if any - help/support/sanctions are used to try to improve kids being in class.  But one thing I do know, is that if you turn up everyday, and cause few, if any, problems, keep your head down, and do your work, you get absolutely NO recognition, no rewards, nothing.  

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  • beanielou
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    There's no need to go for a composite door.  They are very pricey.
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  • Greying_Pilgrim
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    beanielou said:
    There's no need to go for a composite door.  They are very pricey.
    Agreed beanie.  This particular surveyor was talking about composite with the rationale of 'safety'.  Now, none of us wants to feel unsafe in our own homes, and the surveyor pointed out 'weak' spots in conventional UPVC doors.  But honestly, if someone wants to knock your door down for whatever reason, they will.  In terms of a casual burglar stoving our door in, they're gonna be disappointed on what there is to nick from our house - I don't think there's much of a market for random stones from a beach, a bookcase of paperbacks sourced from a chazzer, or a plastic steam pudding bowl.......  But what I want/need a new door to do is a) close/lock easily and b) stop the ingress of cold/damp air that 'falls' into/onto our house.  So an 'insulated' door is of far more importance to me, than a model that wouldn't be out of place in Fort Knox.  

    We're lucky that the front door is currently functional, so we can at least look into the factors that are important to us to determine which type of door we go with.  Whether that is fitted with some or all of the windows, or at a later date.  

    Wet start with us.  An opportunity to clear some homework out of the way, but LG ain't buying it 🙄

    DH has gorn off.  Lunch will probably be soup.  Not too sure about tea - the rugger is slap bang in the afternoon, which always makes food prep difficult, and I wish I could just pick up the phone and order summat scrummy.  

    I've been having a bit of a wince over budgets.  Trying to work out how we can fund things for our little holiday in HT.  I know we're super lucky to be even considering a holiday, and there are things that we are foregoing to go off.  But I'm also keeping an eye on what's coming up with school - in terms of trips or events - and allowing for the fact school never tell you how much a trip is going to be, I've got to have some pennies in reserve - not that LG necessarily wants to go to some trips, but staying behind at school isn't a super brilliant experience either.  It's annoying that school trips are normally ill-thought out and never capitalised on in terms of work eminating from the experience, and they are always so expensive.  I know we're lucky in that we plan and do stuff outside of school with LG and some kiddos don't have that, but it puts pressure on finances to fund what LG "has" to do, versus what they might want to do, or what we might want to do with them.  

    Ah well, onwards and upwards.

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