is my mums tenancy at risk from her adult childs behaviour

squizz11

My mother is 79 and lives in a housing association bungalow.  My sibling lived and worked nearby so visited alot as they ate there most days and they lived in an HMO.   They stayed quite alot at weekends.

they have had substance abuse issues in the past and recently it has come to light that they have relapsed.   they have been borrowing money all over my mums estate( without our knowledge) mainly from elderly residents and they have now complained to the council so it has become an AGB concern.

We have had letters and I have responded on her behalf and next week they are meeting with a community advisor regarding next steps which concerns me.  They are under the impression that he lives with her, which they don't  and I have corrected them on this,  is she responsible for what they do? is her home at risk?   She is already terrified to open the door and doesn't go out.
They are asking for a letter so they can discuss things with me but if I tell her they have had more complaints I'm worried it could tip her over the edge.

they were told last month to stay away and as far as I'm aware they have as my mother hasn't seen them at all.

thanks

anselld

squizz11 said:

they were told last month to stay away and as far as I'm aware they have as my mother hasn't seen them at all.

thanks

When you say they are staying away do you mean the sibling?  That would seem the best solution.  She cannot be held accountable for the sibling if the actions do not occur on her premises and if the sibling lives elsewhere.
Change the locks to be sure.

squizz11

he never had a key so should be ok with that side of things, and yes I've told  my sibling to stay away, no one has heard from them for about a month

MultiFuelBurner

Do you know how much this "con" person has borrowed off local residents?

Maybe start thinking about how to pay that back even though they should never have lent the con person any money.

squizz11

my mother is 79 and on pension credit and lives in sheltered accommodation,  neither of us is in a position to pay back anyone.   At this moment in time she is mortified and doesn't leave the house.

marcia_

MultiFuelBurner said:

Do you know how much this "con" person has borrowed off local residents?

Maybe start thinking about how to pay that back even though they should never have lent the con person any money.

 Why should the op pay it back? It's not their responsibility to do so 

MultiFuelBurner

marcia_ said:

MultiFuelBurner said:

Do you know how much this "con" person has borrowed off local residents?

Maybe start thinking about how to pay that back even though they should never have lent the con person any money.

 Why should the op pay it back? It's not their responsibility to do so 

I didn't say they have to just said "maybe"

If the mother is now housebound because of this issue at 79 and mortified. Won't go out as the OP has indicated then even a small amount of (not accepting liability) repayment may ease local relations?

The con person doesn't have to live there for the rest of their functioning life but the mother does and does she want to live their unhappy

babyblade41

I think if OP's mother offered a small financial award then she would be accepting responsibility.

I would get a restraining order on them 

squizz11

thanks for the replies,  we are more concerned about her Tenancy at the moment and if in anyway she can be held liable as its considered an AGB concern. 

 we have started the process into trying to move her closer to me to as I'm more equipped to help her but it's a slow process as not much available in social housing as it needs to be accessible.

theoretica

What is AGB?

theartfullodger

Maybe a home swap.?  Is the a local citizens advice she/you can go to for advice?

Suggest carefully reading tenancy to see what it says about behaviours.

Sorry, sympathy, good luck.