My friend is rude and ignorant

Mands

MikeL93 said:

Thanks everyone, I think what I am going to do is when we go to the game this weekend if he keeps me waiting in the car when I turn up for him I am just going to drive off. I won't drive to the stadium I will just park around the corner or something and wait for him to text me asking where I am. If he does I'll say something like "I was fed up of waiting for you so I went the shop" and then if he does it again at the next match then I will drive off.

This is classic passive aggressive behaviour.

If his behaviour troubles you then tell him. In clear, concise language.

You are expecting him to mind read that what he does upsets you. Instead he thinks "He always drives, he always pays for parking, I'm always late but he never complains ... he's fine with the way I act."

Use your words.

breaking_free

^ Exactly what @Mands says. 
You're expecting this guy to read your mind - just spell it out for him. He's already shown that he doesn't understand how you're feeling so you need to be straight with him.

baser999

Agree with everyone, you need to tell him that you’re acting as his taxi, albeit for free - always driving, can’t have a drink for that reason and can no longer afford to do all the running around.

Wyndham

You need to be honest, and upfront. If you're still happy to take him to the matches, then tell him that while you first did this as a favour, as it's become more frequent, you'd like him to contribute to petrol and parking. If you want him to drive sometimes, tell him that. If you are fed up of him being late, let him know that it's not acceptable and you'd like to leave in good time.

But, after saying all of that.... I'm not sure that you're actually still happy to go to the matches with him at all. If that's the case, let him know.

If you're worried about offending him, then don't be. He obviously doesn't think twice about how you might feel!

74jax

If you don't want to say it to his face, text him. 

I'll be ready at x to go, if you're not there on time I'll just drive myself. 

If he messages AFTER the time. Reply when you are at the stadium, as you'll be driving and won't pick it up anyway. And simply say you're already at the stadium, he can make his own way and you'll see him when he gets there.

To me it's a no brainer, I really don't know why you'd park round the corner. You're both adults, just tell him the time. 

bluelad1927

A friend of mine came round last weekend and was extremely rude and disrespectful in my house

He is no longer my friend. It really is that simple.

Archergirl

What makes you think this person is your friend, has he ever done anything nice for you?

pinkshoes

You just need to be assertive.

"I'm going to the game on Saturday. Leaving 12.30pm from my house if you'd like a lift?"

Or for the away matches "it's 150 miles round trip so do you want to go halves on petrol or are you going to make your own way there?"

Ps - this person isn't a friend. They're treating you like a doormat!

TBagpuss

One possibility is that he is deliberately using you, the other is that he is clueless.

So talk to him.

It may be that from his perspective, you're going anyway, so you'd be paying for the parking pass and most of the petrol anyway.  
(I agree that it would be nice if he offered you a contribution, but it may be it hasn't occurred to him) 

Maybe have a chat with him, say that you are starting to feel used because you seem to be doing all the work for these trips, so moving forward:
- You are willing to drive him to the games, but rather than picking him up, he needs to get himself to yours, (or you can just meet at the stadium)
- If he would like to continue to get lifts you would like him to give you a contribution to the additional costs involved in driving, bearing in mind you are also doing him a favour in that he gets to drink ( I assume he could organize himself to get to yours without driving if he wanted and it still be cheaper than getting all the way to the stadium, if not, he can meet you there)  
- alternatively, suggest that you switch, that one season/year you buy the parking pass and drive, and the next year he does. 

If he's a decent friend whose just been a bit clueless and hasn't been thinking, he'll probably be mortified that he's been letting this go on so long, if he is just using you as a cheap taxi he'll probably get angry and accuse you of trying to make money off him, or of being cheap or petty, and that will tell you that he was just using you and is annoyed that you've stopped letting him. 

Re: drinks - if he asks for your card, you could try something like "Seriously mate. I've driven you here and you aren't even willing to pay for a soft drink?" but I think the risk with that is that he may start to assume that if he buys your drinks that's enough to cover you driving, which unless it's the most expensive cola ever is probably not the case. 

pickledonionspaceraider

You could start by saying, actually you come to my house and we will leave from there, as I have to drive back in this direction to get to the game! - This is IF you actually want to stay friends with this person.  He really does seem as if he has got no respect for you/your time/your money, though.

 I know it is hard to talk to people, but I recently had this exact same conversation with my sister over something similar and now I wont pick her up if we are going out in my direction of town

Other than that, I think as we grow and change, its entirely possible to just outgrow people.  The person who calls me her best friend (known since primary school), really isn't even a close friend, ne'mind a 'best' friend - and hasn't been for years.  She is someone who now lives 200 miles away - she doesn't respond to messages, and contacts me once every 6 months, offloads all her problems, tells me I'm her best friend/she loves me, and then doesn't respond to messages again for another six months. 

 I got sick of this on/off best friendship years ago, and now, I give her the same energy that she gives me = very little.