Former Husband Trying To Control My Life

KxMx

Ah, I thought I recognised the username. 

elsien

Yes, she’s back with a vengeance. 

Bluelass, how are you planning to run a post office when you are absent for 6 months of the year? 

ETA particularly when the US postal service hasn’t been privatised as it has here and is still a government entity. 

bluelass

elsien said:

Yes, she’s back with a vengeance. 

Bluelass, how are you planning to run a post office when you are absent for 6 months of the year? 

ETA particularly when the US postal service hasn’t been privatised as it has here and is still a government entity. 

It is a franchise with a apartment above.
We will employ a manager to run it and let them have the apartment for cheap rent.

TripleH

Did you not go through the courts when you divorced? Was everything not agreed then?

Is it enforcing what was agreed or was no settlement reached?

Dovyou have any paperwork at all from the house purchase?

TBagpuss

Your solicitor is the best placed to advice you. However, you can, if you have not already done so:

1. If the house is just in your husband's name, register your matrimonial homes rights . This would not prevent him from transferring the property into his brother's name however, it would make it much harder for them to get a mortgage as the lender would want it cleared off. You can also get copies of the current office copies (i.e. showing that the house is currently registered in his name) 

2. Make an application to the court to resolve financial issues. This may take a little while but ultimately a court will decide what happens to the assets, and twill set timetables so your ex can't drag it out for ever.

3. It's not 100% correct that your fiancé's assets are irrelevant - the court has to look at what is fair in all the circumstances and that includes looking at what each of you needs. IF you are engaged and/ or living together then your needs are different to what they would be if you were single, however, this would normally mean that arguments you might otherwise have for an unequal split of assets in your favour would carry less weight.

IT would of course also be relevant of you and your fiancé plan to live in a state which doesn't have community of property (i.e. where in a divorce , the default would be for each of you to keep the assets you brought into the marriage) 

If he refused to cooperate a t all, the court does have various powers - for instance, a court can make a decision based on the evidence it has available, so if he refuses to comply with order to provide his financial information, a court is entitled to make a decision based on your disclosure and your best estimates of his assets.
If he fails to comply with an order to pay you a ump sm / sell the house, a court can make an order allowing the paperwork for a sale to be singed by another person (either the Judge, or sometimes the solicitor dealing with the house sale) 

I can't comment on the visa situation but would recommend that you report te threats he has made, to make false and malicious allegations to try to prevent you gaining a visa, to the police here,. Ask them to log it as harassment and give you a crime reference number ad to explicitly record that the threat made was to make allegations he knew were false, with the stated purpose of stopping you leaving the country. That way, if he does follow through with his threat and it is raised as an issue,   you can subsequently request the details from the police and provide them, if need be, to the American Embassy or whoever deals with the application, as evidence that it's malicious harassment 

bluelass

TripleH said:

Did you not go through the courts when you divorced? Was everything not agreed then?

Is it enforcing what was agreed or was no settlement reached?

Dovyou have any paperwork at all from the house purchase?

I have nothing at all.
Throughout the marriage he controlled everything I never seen his bank account ever.
He kept his phone by his side at all times even in the bathroom when he went to the toilet.
He also is a heavy drinker.
Nearly all his friends have been in jail or are divorced or separated with issues.

freesha

LOL. Just LOL.