Former Husband Trying To Control My Life

bluelass

I divorced in early 2021 i met a wonderful man from the USA who has a home over here also and 7 years my junior we are marrying in December.
My ex will not agree to a clean break order and i still have not received my divorce settlement.
Also he is trying to stop me from getting a green card he said he will tell the issuing authoraties i was a substance user as i plan to live in the USA  for 6 months a year in Ohio and the  other 6 in the UK.
He is saying because im marrying a man from a wealthy family ( he is heir to a department store) i dont need half of his house and he is planning to put the house in his business owners brothers name and will tell his solicitor it was never our home his brother owned it and my former husband paid him rent.
He controlled and bullied me in our marriage and is awaiting trial for this with the possibility of a custodial sentence.
Before our split one of his pub buddies threatened to have my face melted if i took my now former husband for half of the property.
Just what the hell can i do?.

Spendless

You need legal advice. How is the home that you had with ex owned, and is your name on the mortgage? The ex is probably coming out with a load of baloney he can't do but I think you need to speak to your solicitor anyway. I should imagine they'll be more replies later on today. 

CKhalvashi

I agree you will need to take legal advice on this. The below is not legal advice, just a personal opinion with some fact thrown in.

Property transactions are easy to track. Fraud by False Representation is subject to a maximum 10 year prison sentence. Take a copy of the land registry documents now (it costs £3) as this will be vital later on. I assume his brother has declared this income on his tax returns also.

If you are threatened, you will need to speak to the police. Call 101 in a non-emergency situation and 999 or 112 if you feel in immediate danger.

For the US visa, I'm guiding someone through the application for a (very) temporary work permit at the moment and she'll need to fly to Warsaw next week for the interview. It's likely you'll be called in for interview for any settlement permit, so you'll have full opportunity to put your side of the story to the US immigration authorities. If you can prove he's lied on the house and (if necessary) have police records detailing abuse, I doubt you'll have too many problems with this as it should sow some doubt into the Consular officer's mind regarding the truthfulness of any other allegations.

Spendless

Also I'm not saying this to be mean but out of concern, the  younger  American from a  wealthy family , heir to a department story and with a property also in the UK' you have checked out this  haven't you? It's just that people who have been victims of abuse can be vulnerable to all sorts  coming into their lives. 

bluelass

The house deeds only have my former husband name on them.
He texted me earlier today to say he would rather go to jail.
My solicitor said some people try to make financial gifts to family or friends during divorce and then get it back after everything goes through.
It's fraud and you can get jail time for it.
How can I be divorced over 2 years and not received my settlement?.
He won't consent to a clean break because he knows my dad is getting older and I will be one day getting a inheritance from his property.
Also he knows I'm remarrying someone of wealth and thinks that he can claim a lot of money towards his living when he retires in 4 years he is much older than me.
Surely he can't do this.
His son and daughter from his first wife my former step children think that they might be in for some money too.

bluelass

Spendless said:

Also I'm not saying this to be mean but out of concern, the  younger  American from a  wealthy family , heir to a department story and with a property also in the UK' you have checked out this  haven't you? It's just that people who have been victims of abuse can be vulnerable to all sorts  coming into their lives. 

Of course I have I'm not stupid.
I am still feeling the effects of the abuse in my previous marriage and having counseling.
My husband to be is a friend of a former boyfriend from my youth.
I'm 42 now and I only wish I left my marriage years ago I stayed too long.

Spendless

Is your solicitor aware you intend to re-marry at the end of the year and has advised on  whether that could affect your financial settlement? 

tightauldgit

Your ex seems to be talking a lot of nonsense in order to scare you - the thing is he doesn't NEED to agree to anything and can't stop you doing anything unless you allow them to. If you can't agree on a settlement then you apply to the court to decide it for you and they will make a financial order. 

I'm sure US immigration have better things to do than seek out or listen to baseless allegations made by disgruntled exes and equally a simple check at the land registry and bank statements will show who owned the house and who pays rent to who. 

He sounds like a prize !!!!!! so just call his bluff and get on with the legal process of sorting out the divorce and financials and ignore anything else. Inform the police and the courts of the threats and harassment. 

bluelass

Spendless said:

Is your solicitor aware you intend to re-marry at the end of the year and has advised on  whether that could affect your financial settlement? 

Yes i have been very honest and open with my solicitor.
I was married for almost 19 years it wasnt a short marriage.
My solicitor said my fiancees assets shouldnt have any bearing on my settlement.
I dont want any of his pension or savings i just want what is fair my share of the property.

bluelass

I am going to use my settlement to buy a postal office in Cleveland Ohio.
After the wedding we are starting a family immediately and my former spouse hates that im going forward with my life.

wilfred30

bluelass said:

I am going to use my settlement to buy a postal office in Cleveland Ohio.
After the wedding we are starting a family immediately and my former spouse hates that im going forward with my life.

I'm sorry but that just made me laugh