A lodgers ‘guests’

sourpuss2021

SadieO said:

BattyJ said:

Well let’s put it this way it’s never the same guy and different cars each time. I didn’t intend my house to be a ‘shag’ pad 

If that's what she's doing wouldn't they be in her bed, not sleeping on the couch in the lounge??

Lovers tiff? 

Skiddaw1

I definitely think the starting point is a tactful but assertive conversation with the lodger. There may be a reasonable explanation and at the very least it'll bring things to a head. Personally, for what it is worth, I wouldn't be comfortable with random people sleeping in the lounge either- it's rather different to her having a boyfriend staying over on a regular basis, or having particular friends calling in. If you can't bottom it out then I think it's time to pull the plug on it.

Gavin83

It’s threads like these that make me wonder why anyone would ever wish to be a lodger. Seems to be more trouble than it’s worth. I’m assuming its cheaper rent than a house share/HMO?

Despite how unreasonable any requests might be it’s still a case of “your house, your rules”. Personally if I was your lodger I’d be serving notice after the conversation but their opinion might be different.

sourpuss2021

Gavin83 said:

It’s threads like these that make me wonder why anyone would ever wish to be a lodger. Seems to be more trouble than it’s worth. I’m assuming its cheaper rent than a house share/HMO?

Despite how unreasonable any requests might be it’s still a case of “your house, your rules”. Personally if I was your lodger I’d be serving notice after the conversation but their opinion might be different.

Some people don’t mind the hierarchy.  While a lot less fun than living with friends or partner, it’s better than a bad flatshare/HMO with strangers.

It’s true though that the fact a live-in-landlord may have a nicer property to offer, has to be balanced against the constraints a lodger may face in what they can do there.

DietIrnBru

Threads like this remind why i've never pursed renting out my spare room despite the financial gain to be had.

I've been a lodger in a previous houses and also been a flatmate in properites before. Personally, I found it disntinctly uncomfortable if randoms were being brought back - I viewed it distinctly unsafe - particularly if under the influence of the booze mixed with hormones. If you are having somebody in your home - you have to be able to vouch for them given you have somebody else to consider - if you live alone, do what the hec you want. Family, friends of significant others - you can make allowances for.

Have a conversation with the lodger but tbh - sounds like it will be a parting of the ways - just remember to be clear with future tenants. TBH if a lanlord had said to me a lodger that it was a rule of no randoms and it was a decent price for the room - I'd have no problem. I'd rather I had a safe, secure and warm home to be in rather than missing out on a s***.

sourpuss2021

I think also that it’s impossible to get home contents insurance against theft by your lodger or their guests, whether they be random or otherwise.   

DietIrnBru

sourpuss2021 said:

I think also that it’s impossible to get home contents insurance against theft by your lodger or their guests, whether they be random or otherwise.   

Would be a eye brow raise from an insurance company if they asked how a person got access to the property.

D924

You took on a single female lodger, this is standard

steve866

You can evict or try and set some ground rules. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to request no guests sleeping on the sofa (other might disagree). 

It sounds like it might not be the best match

TheJP

silvercar said:

I'm not clear whether the lounge is for your sole use or part of the shared parts of the house. If it is not shared use, then it is out of order for your lodger to use it in your absence. If it is a shared area in the same way as the kitchen would be, then I don't see it as an issue that the lodger is allowing guests to use it.

Watching a movie and having a cuppa yes, using it as a hotel no. Not unreasonable to ask the lodger not to have friends stay over in the living room.