A lodgers ‘guests’

BattyJ

I rent out a room to a lodger. She was told it wasn’t a party house prior to she moved in a month ago. 

I am often away and have security camera’s in the hallway downstairs and the kitchen to cover entrances to the house, plus external camera, incase of break in ( I was broken into twice when I was rebuilding the house) She was I formed of them prior to moving in.

It has become evident that she has various ‘random’ male guests whenever I am away who stay over and often sleeping in my lounge. 

Where do I stand with this, I am not happy about random guys in my house whenever I am away. 

diego_94

What does your contract say that you both signed?

MultiFuelBurner

Doesn't sound like a "party" house sounds like someone out there making friends and then them crashing at the house.

Have you any specific terms that are designed to stop them having people over to stay?

The cameras internally sound creepy to me.

BattyJ

The contract doesn’t specifically mention guests. I don’t mind a bf/partner staying over now and then but a string of different guys every night I’m away isn’t good especially sleeping in my lounge that is not part of the common areas.

As for it being creepy it’s my house and they cover the entrances to the house ie downstairs hallway and the kitchen with the patio doors, common break in points. I live in the city and was broken into twice so it’s my protection. I told her about the was cameras when she visited the house and she had no objection. 

MultiFuelBurner

Sounds like you need to put your big person pants on and have a chat with your lodger if it is causing you distress.

Nothing legally you can do but come to a general agreement. Try not to escalate it or become too emotional.

sourpuss2021

When the cat’s away, the mice will play!

Is it possible to lock the lounge door as well as your bedroom door so at least any guests are confined to her bedroom and the kitchen?

Would you be able to have a conversation with her about what you consider to be reasonable?  For instance a set number of times a week (most likely 2-4) where she could have guests, and what if any advance notice she should give you?

People will interpret “not a party house” to specifically mean no parties.   They won’t take it to include low-key socialising at home with 1-3 people from their friendship group.

Mr.Generous

Tell her you are not happy with extra random guests. Make an ammendment to the agreement - she can accept it or give notice to quit. Divide the months rent by 30, and for every night she has an overnight guest charge an extra day (at least). Next time put it into the agreement.

elsien

What is your definition of “random”? They could be friends/relatives not casual pick ups. 

The lodger knows you have cameras. Therefore they must know that you are aware of the guests staying overnight. If you say nothing they will presume it’s ok.
So speak to her. And also consider how you would react if she bringing different men to her room and not to sleep in the lounge, which would be the other possibility at present. 

sourpuss2021

MultiFuelBurner said:

Doesn't sound like a "party" house sounds like someone out there making friends and then them crashing at the house.

Have you any specific terms that are designed to stop them having people over to stay?

The cameras internally sound creepy to me.

Does seem a bit odd if they are “friends” that she has just gone out and met.  Why then are they sleeping in the lounge?!

If they actually are opposite-sex friends, why do they need to crash over? If they live locally is it because of drug use/ inebriation?     

Anyway time for a conversation and it might be time for OP and lodger to part ways.

BattyJ

elsien said:

What is your definition of “random”? They could be friends/relatives not casual pick ups. 

The lodger knows you have cameras. Therefore they must know that you are aware of the guests staying overnight. If you say nothing they will presume it’s ok.
So speak to her. And also consider how you would react if she bringing different men to her room and not to sleep in the lounge, which would be the other possibility at present. 

Well let’s put it this way it’s never the same guy and different cars each time. I didn’t intend my house to be a ‘shag’ pad or whatever she is using it for.

What she does in her bedroom is her business so long as it’s legal. The rest of the house is my house and I don’t want a string of different guys through all the time. I have had lodgers before and never anything like this. 

_Penny_Dreadful

It sounds like she isn’t the right lodger for you. Your house, your rules.