Trying for a baby

HampshireH

Don't put your life plans on hold for a holiday. You can go on holiday anytime.

But do be sure you won't resent family for going if your girlfriend is not pregnant when they go. Maybe have a back up trip (like agreeing to a last minute deal perhaps) if you think this could be an issue.

Some people would resent thousands being spent on their siblings and not them. 

Personally I would have a quiet word with mum or dad (in agreement with your girlfriend) that you were hoping to start a family in the next 12-18 months but that you're only mentioning it for context and it may not happen but you wouldn't want to put those plans on hold by a year but you also don't want it repeated to others.

If you're all close enough to holiday together then I'm assuming your relationship is one where you trust them.

Malthusian

elsien said:

While thinking the law is appalling, it does allow for treatment where there is a risk of death.
Sorry to go off on a tangent and there are implications to think about but it’s not quite that clear cut. 

Top tip: when it is "not clear cut" whether a foreign country's laws (or state's) could result in you being killed or jailed, let someone else be the test case.
(I have no idea what the current status of Florida's abortion laws is. I suspect that a UK tourist is more likely to be eaten by a stray alligator than to suffer pregnancy complications and die due to local doctors being legally prohibited from providing treatment, but it's not my risk assessment to make.)

ZaSa1418

MikeL93 said:

Me and my girlfriend have been discussing trying for a baby for about 12 months now and at the start of this year we agreed that we would start trying at the end of this year as we had no plans on the horizon and more importantly we’re not getting any younger.

However, a few weeks ago my parents mentioned taking us, my sisters and their partners and my nephew to Florida next year on a big family holiday. This now has thrown a bit of a spanner into the works as we don’t want to delay trying for a baby as we’re both in our late 20’s but also if we don’t go to Florida we’ll have to tell people the reason why.

I have said we’re just going to have to be honest but maybe just tell our parents for the time being why we don’t want to go on this big family holiday.

If anyone has any help or advice it would be appreciated.

You don't have to tell them why, just say it is so far in advance you are not sure about time off from work etc. I planned a big Florida holiday in 2018 whilst i was ttc, my daughter was 10 weeks old when we went.