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Advice MIL died without leaving a will
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In which case, failing to distribute the estate is gross dereliction of duty. Has he asked for the estate accounts?
Has she in fact still got the money?If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing3 -
RAS said:Has she in fact still got the money?
Hopefully that's not the case......2 -
RAS said:In which case, failing to distribute the estate is gross dereliction of duty. Has he asked for the estate accounts?
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Do you know my mind hadn't gone to the above and it should have, I've read another threads on hereto know when there's a delaying tactic there's usually a reason behind it!
OP - Was the estate a property that needed selling? If so do you know when the sale went through? I should imagine that's easy enough to find online or was it money in various bank accounts?
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He can't tell the solicitor to do anything if sis has been appointed administrator. He'll be lucky if she agrees to speak to him.
And this really highlights why sis shouldn't have been allowed to get administration. Unless there was a big IHT bill or some very specialist assets, doing probate in England or Wales is within the capacity of any reasonably competent adult who can manage their own finances. If there's a particularly difficult will, it's usually easy to DIY and pay for legal advice on the specific issue(s).
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yes the house sold Oct 2020. We were in charge of that as the property was close by0
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RAS said:He can't tell the solicitor to do anything if sis has been appointed administrator. He'll be lucky if she agrees to speak to him.
And this really highlights why sis shouldn't have been allowed to get administration. Unless there was a big IHT bill or some very specialist assets, doing probate in England or Wales is within the capacity of any reasonably competent adult who can manage their own finances. If there's a particularly difficult will, it's usually easy to DIY and pay for legal advice on the specific issue(s).
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That's better, solicitor's fees for probate are huge compared with DIY.
Why is the accountant involved?If you've have not made a mistake, you've made nothing0 -
The_Unready said:RAS said:Has she in fact still got the money?
Hopefully that's not the case......
Sadly, that does happen ☹️
Huge chunks of cash hitting someone's account or under their control is overwhelmingly tempting for some.
Fingers crossed that isn't what's happening here. 🤞How's it going, AKA, Nutwatch? - 12 month spends to date = 2.60% of current retirement "pot" (as at end May 2025)2 -
If probate was granted in 2020, it's fair to assume that everything was identified and in order.
Once probate was granted it should just be a case of collecting and distributing funds.
Find the value of the estate, divide between the two siblings and you should have an approximate value due to each person.
Search probate records for documents and wills (England and Wales) (probatesearch.service.gov.uk)
Were the proceeds from house sale paid into an Executor's account?
It all sounds very dubious to me, particularly as you've already been given excuses.
Personally, I wouldn't delay. If the sister isn't totally upfront, it's a fair assumption that something has happened.
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