While putting away the dishes, I accidentally dropped a bowl belonging to my flatmate. She told me not to bother replacing it as we have loads of others, but the bowl I smashed was from an expensive ceramics brand, while our other bowls are normal cheap crockery. Yet I still feel bad about it - what would you do?
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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I replace my flatmate's fancy bowl - even though she told me not to?
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Offer once more, to replace it and if she says no again leave it at that. Just because it was expensive, doesn't mean she really liked it. Buy a decent bottle of wine to draw a line under the event.1
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If you can afford it financially I would replace the bowl. Your flat mate might say she doesn't mind, and believe it in the moment, but little things can build up over time and result in resentment.
I think it also shows you respect her belongings and respect her as an extension.0 -
Look on ebay. You will probably be able to get a replacement much cheaper and second hand.0
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OP answers the question about replacement by saying he/she feels bad about it. If OP can afford the replacement and can get one that matches, go ahead and buy it for the friend.0
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Just replace it if you feel bad about it. I'm sure your friend won't mind!I used to be seven-day-weekend0
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Agent57 said:Rob5342 said:Just talk to her and find out if she meant it or was just being polite.
I often find the logical thing say and the polite thing to say are polar opposites and it can drive me insane.It depends how hard you push it. They might be polite to start with but if you have your phone out about to buy a new one you could be more sure of their view.0 -
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