Depressed about new house

jrawle

lookstraightahead said:

And often they're noisier. I live in a very old semi cottage with really thick walls. The neighbours stairs are against my living room wall and I don't hear a thing.
my parents and my sibling live in detached houses and have noisy neighbours / kids kicking footballs against fences / dogs barking.

Or perhaps you've been lucky with the neighbours you've had. If you suddenly had neighbours who like loud TV/music, have frequent arguments at the top of their voices, walk up the stairs in heavy boots or high heels instead of stocking feet, etc. you may find it less well insulated. I lived in a flat I thought was beautifully soundproofed until I had changes of neighbours, when I realised it wasn't as good as I thought.

There is always an element of luck in what the neighbours are like for any type of property. However, if you are in a detached house, you are more likely to enjoy quiet, as even if the neighbours like dogs, children, garden parties or motorbikes, ultimately you can go to bed at night and not hear sounds from inside the neighbouring home through the wall.

As for affordability, you have to work your way up the chain. I lived in house shares; hated that and couldn't do it again. I lived in a flat for over a decade; the experience was varied as noted above. I overpaid the mortgage and saved money so that I could afford to move to a detached house. So it may take some time and you may have to compromise in the meantime, but nothing compares to a detached house if you are sensitive to noise.

Sarah1Mitty2

Yes, luck is a big part of it unless you are in a detached house with land.

lookstraightahead

jrawle said:

lookstraightahead said:

And often they're noisier. I live in a very old semi cottage with really thick walls. The neighbours stairs are against my living room wall and I don't hear a thing.
my parents and my sibling live in detached houses and have noisy neighbours / kids kicking footballs against fences / dogs barking.

Or perhaps you've been lucky with the neighbours you've had. If you suddenly had neighbours who like loud TV/music, have frequent arguments at the top of their voices, walk up the stairs in heavy boots or high heels instead of stocking feet, etc. you may find it less well insulated. I lived in a flat I thought was beautifully soundproofed until I had changes of neighbours, when I realised it wasn't as good as I thought.

There is always an element of luck in what the neighbours are like for any type of property. However, if you are in a detached house, you are more likely to enjoy quiet, as even if the neighbours like dogs, children, garden parties or motorbikes, ultimately you can go to bed at night and not hear sounds from inside the neighbouring home through the wall.

As for affordability, you have to work your way up the chain. I lived in house shares; hated that and couldn't do it again. I lived in a flat for over a decade; the experience was varied as noted above. I overpaid the mortgage and saved money so that I could afford to move to a detached house. So it may take some time and you may have to compromise in the meantime, but nothing compares to a detached house if you are sensitive to noise.

Depends on the noise really. If you work shifts big gardens are worse, especially when people don't think their detached houses are big enough and decide to extend. Or they have gardens big enough for a few barking dogs etc.

Woolsery

Sarah1Mitty2 said:

Yes, luck is a big part of it unless you are in a detached house with land.

We're in that situation. A few months after we came here, noise from a neighbour's property 200 m away developed. Bored dogs were left in cage runs to bark non-stop, all day, virtually every day when their owner was at work.  It wasn't a serious problem inside our house, but people don't buy houses with acreage to stay indoors! I contemplated many things, including murder, before that problem eventually resolved. By then, I'd prayed for a variety of nasty things to happen to the owner, but God moves in less vindictive ways. When I focused instead on him winning the lottery, he soon inherited a good sum of money, stopped work and peace returned.

There's a tip for you!

YoungBlueEyes

Please God let my neighbour win the lottery..... Please God let my neighbour win the lottery...

lookstraightahead

Woolsery said:

Sarah1Mitty2 said:

Yes, luck is a big part of it unless you are in a detached house with land.

We're in that situation. A few months after we came here, noise from a neighbour's property 200 m away developed. Bored dogs were left in cage runs to bark non-stop, all day, virtually every day when their owner was at work.  It wasn't a serious problem inside our house, but people don't buy houses with acreage to stay indoors! I contemplated many things, including murder, before that problem eventually resolved. By then, I'd prayed for a variety of nasty things to happen to the owner, but God moves in less vindictive ways. When I focused instead on him winning the lottery, he soon inherited a good sum of money, stopped work and peace returned.

There's a tip for you!

Sounds like he won the lottery just in time 😁

Woolsery

lookstraightahead said:

Woolsery said:

Sarah1Mitty2 said:

Yes, luck is a big part of it unless you are in a detached house with land.

We're in that situation. A few months after we came here, noise from a neighbour's property 200 m away developed. Bored dogs were left in cage runs to bark non-stop, all day, virtually every day when their owner was at work.  It wasn't a serious problem inside our house, but people don't buy houses with acreage to stay indoors! I contemplated many things, including murder, before that problem eventually resolved. By then, I'd prayed for a variety of nasty things to happen to the owner, but God moves in less vindictive ways. When I focused instead on him winning the lottery, he soon inherited a good sum of money, stopped work and peace returned.

There's a tip for you!

Sounds like he won the lottery just in time 😁

I'm not known for murdering people; just pointing out that a detached and apparently less vulnerable property can still be badly affected by a difficult neighbour. We lived in non-detached houses for 40 years previously without any major noise issues. We also did due diligence, visiting at different times etc before exchange, attempting to eliminate problems like that.

GDB2222

Woolsery said:

Sarah1Mitty2 said:

Yes, luck is a big part of it unless you are in a detached house with land.

We're in that situation. A few months after we came here, noise from a neighbour's property 200 m away developed. Bored dogs were left in cage runs to bark non-stop, all day, virtually every day when their owner was at work.  It wasn't a serious problem inside our house, but people don't buy houses with acreage to stay indoors! I contemplated many things, including murder, before that problem eventually resolved. By then, I'd prayed for a variety of nasty things to happen to the owner, but God moves in less vindictive ways. When I focused instead on him winning the lottery, he soon inherited a good sum of money, stopped work and peace returned.

There's a tip for you!

If you focus on me winning the lottery, I'll do the same for you.

Woolsery

GDB2222 said:

Woolsery said:

Sarah1Mitty2 said:

Yes, luck is a big part of it unless you are in a detached house with land.

We're in that situation. A few months after we came here, noise from a neighbour's property 200 m away developed. Bored dogs were left in cage runs to bark non-stop, all day, virtually every day when their owner was at work.  It wasn't a serious problem inside our house, but people don't buy houses with acreage to stay indoors! I contemplated many things, including murder, before that problem eventually resolved. By then, I'd prayed for a variety of nasty things to happen to the owner, but God moves in less vindictive ways. When I focused instead on him winning the lottery, he soon inherited a good sum of money, stopped work and peace returned.

There's a tip for you!

If you focus on me winning the lottery, I'll do the same for you.

Sorry, but no, thanks. I stopped playing many years ago. I know a family who won. While it solved their immediate problems, it created many more further down the line. I'm not confident I could do better.

HRH_MUngo

I had a terraced house for forty years and never once had a noise problem. It helped that we had the same neighbours on either side for most of that time.  In the beginning we  all had small children.

We bought a house in Spain with what in this country would be called a creeping freehold; one bedroom was below a room in next door's house.  They were hardly ever there (theirs was a holiday home, we lived there full-time).When they were there, the noise in our bedroom was like a herd of elephants rushing through.  I'm sure they were not any noisier than anyone else, it was just the way the houses were built.  Fortunately they were not there too often and the bedroom was only a guest room anyway so we could ignore the herd of elephants when they arrived.

We now live in a bungalow (in the UK), which is only joined to next door  at the bedrooms and we are both couples in our 70s.  Neither of us hear any noise.

All I can say is, if the noise bothers you, all you can do is move to a detached house.  People have to live their lives, after all.