Depressed about new house

neverthoughtidbehere

TripleH said:

It's perfectly normal to complete on the biggest purchase of your life and suddenly see the negatives for more than they are.

Did you live in a terrace house before? They can be quite enclosing if you're not used to them. Give it time you'll get used to the noise and be more comfortable in your own home.

There are also things you can do to help muffle the noise.

Grew up in terraced then semi, again only loud bangs and shooting that you'd make out if silent. This situation feels so bizarre cos I don't know anyone in a long time growing up or recently thats had this problem 

GDB2222

neverthoughtidbehere said:

TripleH said:

It's perfectly normal to complete on the biggest purchase of your life and suddenly see the negatives for more than they are.

Did you live in a terrace house before? They can be quite enclosing if you're not used to them. Give it time you'll get used to the noise and be more comfortable in your own home.

There are also things you can do to help muffle the noise.

Grew up in terraced then semi, again only loud bangs and shooting that you'd make out if silent. This situation feels so bizarre cos I don't know anyone in a long time growing up or recently thats had this problem 

I hope that you meant shouting, not shooting?

neverthoughtidbehere

GDB2222 said:

You might find carpets help, if the sound is through the floor? What do you have right now?

Yes impact noise come through floor and all carpeted 

neverthoughtidbehere

GDB2222 said:

neverthoughtidbehere said:

TripleH said:

It's perfectly normal to complete on the biggest purchase of your life and suddenly see the negatives for more than they are.

Did you live in a terrace house before? They can be quite enclosing if you're not used to them. Give it time you'll get used to the noise and be more comfortable in your own home.

There are also things you can do to help muffle the noise.

Grew up in terraced then semi, again only loud bangs and shooting that you'd make out if silent. This situation feels so bizarre cos I don't know anyone in a long time growing up or recently thats had this problem 

I hope that you meant shouting, not shooting?

Laughed at this 

neverthoughtidbehere

Noneforit999 said:

Older houses often had little soundproofing in the party walls, we are in a 60's built house and can hear our neighbours TV through the wall, although only when ours is not switched on.

There are things you can do to reduce the noise but ultimately they come at a cost and you will not know how much of an impact they are going to have until you actually spend the money,

We have large floor to ceiling wardrobes in our bedroom which cover the entire party wall and it make no difference to the noise from next door, fortunately we didn't buy them for that purpose but it was a little disappointing to discover they made no difference. 

You can buy soundproofing panels you can stick on the walls but again, how much difference this really makes won't be known until you do it.

I think you have to accept there will always be a level of noise from the party wall.

We had a 2015 new build before this and never heard our neighbours. 

Do you miss the new build then?

killerferret666

I don't know how good you are at DIY or willing to try but In a semi detached house I had similar with floor noises next door.

I got some DFM acoustic insulation and put it in between the floor joists. Lifted the carpet up stairs and floorboards and stuffed it between the joists right up to the party wall. It made a big difference, its like the chamber was working like a subwoofer to amplify the noise beforehand.

Not cheap but also not the most expensive thing to try either (depending on number of joists against property).

I also live alone and am naturally more quiet so get to hear the neighbours kids drum kit...which i did have a word about as were on really good terms, luckily hes moved on to an electric guitar which is less thuds.

neverthoughtidbehere

killerferret666 said:

I don't know how good you are at DIY or willing to try but In a semi detached house I had similar with floor noises next door.

I got some DFM acoustic insulation and put it in between the floor joists. Lifted the carpet up stairs and floorboards and stuffed it between the joists right up to the party wall. It made a big difference, its like the chamber was working like a subwoofer to amplify the noise beforehand.

Not cheap but also not the most expensive thing to try either (depending on number of joists against property).

I also live alone and am naturally more quiet so get to hear the neighbours kids drum kit...which i did have a word about as were on really good terms, luckily hes moved on to an electric guitar which is less thuds.

If I was good at diy this is first thing id do as im positive lots of noise travel through joists, any idea what kind of tradesman would do this ?

housebuyer143

Exodi said:

housebuyer143 said:

No advice, but that's my worst nightmare. I lived in a semi before and luckily the soundproofing was excellent, but I'm so sensitive to noise, that this time when I moved I would only move into a detached because I was so worried about next door being noisy.

Have you never lived in a flat then?

When I rented a flat, I could hear the people walking around above me and I had a single mum the living to the side of me.

So everyday was *stomp* *stomp* *stomp* "TYLER I SAID COME BACK HERE AND EAT YOUR DINNER... NO EAT YOUR DINNER OR YOU'RE GOING TO BED WITH NO PUDDING."

I moved from a flat into a semi detatched house and could regularly hear the neighbours having... fun, which was awkward and like something from a comedy.

I'm much happier in a detatched property - but this also seems like an obvious and out of touch statement - "this lamborghini gets me to work way faster, I don't know why everyone doesn't just buy lamborghinis"

Exodi said:

housebuyer143 said:

No advice, but that's my worst nightmare. I lived in a semi before and luckily the soundproofing was excellent, but I'm so sensitive to noise, that this time when I moved I would only move into a detached because I was so worried about next door being noisy.

Have you never lived in a flat then?

When I rented a flat, I could hear the people walking around above me and I had a single mum the living to the side of me.

So everyday was *stomp* *stomp* *stomp* "TYLER I SAID COME BACK HERE AND EAT YOUR DINNER... NO EAT YOUR DINNER OR YOU'RE GOING TO BED WITH NO PUDDING."

I moved from a flat into a semi detatched house and could regularly hear the neighbours having... fun, which was awkward and like something from a comedy.

I'm much happier in a detatched property - but this also seems like an obvious and out of touch statement - "this lamborghini gets me to work way faster, I don't know why everyone doesn't just buy lamborghinis"

I've never lived in a flat luckily, and I don't think I ever could. I probably have some kind of breakdown lol.
I don't know why they don't just build properties with better soundproofing!

I didn't have much choice with the detached though as my son is autistic and literally jumps on the floor and bangs into walls all day and late into the evening! It sounds like a herd of elephants. I couldn't force that on another neighbor. I don't think they would have been as good as my last one about it.

You are right, though, It's not exactly a solution for a first time buyer who just got on the ladder. 

housebuyer143

neverthoughtidbehere said:

Exodi said:

I'd say this is part and parcel of living in a terraced house to be honest.

The last terraced house I lived in we could hear the neighbours having... fun... together. No doubt they could hear the same. Obviously very weird to think about but we both just lived our lives.

What is the issue if they can hear you? It's likely to be muffled anyway, are you able to make out exactly what they are talking about, or just that they are talking?

I wouldn't hope on the fact that moving into another terraced property would solve this issue. Do you have the money to move to a detatched house?

It all comes down to affordability and convenience.

Do you think you could make peace with the fact that you can hear them and they can hear you?

I'm already mentally stressed from it, could maybe learn to deal with It better overtime but I can't see a long-term future here, especially if I find a partner eventually . it's so bad it's not even muffled it's like 2 bedroom in same house. There older and the person who sold me was older as well so I imagine they got on with it but as I'm young i like my privacy 

My sister was joined to an old lady who was deaf and fell asleep with the TV on full blast in her bedroom which was linked to my sisters. She couldn't sleep. It was rented though and she managed 2 months there before moving out  

I think certain impact noises such as draws on the party wall opening and closing. Plugging things into the sockets on shared walls etc. You will always here, but hearing others speaking is too much. At least they don't have a barking dog to top it off?

neverthoughtidbehere

housebuyer143 said:

Exodi said:

housebuyer143 said:

No advice, but that's my worst nightmare. I lived in a semi before and luckily the soundproofing was excellent, but I'm so sensitive to noise, that this time when I moved I would only move into a detached because I was so worried about next door being noisy.

Have you never lived in a flat then?

When I rented a flat, I could hear the people walking around above me and I had a single mum the living to the side of me.

So everyday was *stomp* *stomp* *stomp* "TYLER I SAID COME BACK HERE AND EAT YOUR DINNER... NO EAT YOUR DINNER OR YOU'RE GOING TO BED WITH NO PUDDING."

I moved from a flat into a semi detatched house and could regularly hear the neighbours having... fun, which was awkward and like something from a comedy.

I'm much happier in a detatched property - but this also seems like an obvious and out of touch statement - "this lamborghini gets me to work way faster, I don't know why everyone doesn't just buy lamborghinis"

Exodi said:

housebuyer143 said:

No advice, but that's my worst nightmare. I lived in a semi before and luckily the soundproofing was excellent, but I'm so sensitive to noise, that this time when I moved I would only move into a detached because I was so worried about next door being noisy.

Have you never lived in a flat then?

When I rented a flat, I could hear the people walking around above me and I had a single mum the living to the side of me.

So everyday was *stomp* *stomp* *stomp* "TYLER I SAID COME BACK HERE AND EAT YOUR DINNER... NO EAT YOUR DINNER OR YOU'RE GOING TO BED WITH NO PUDDING."

I moved from a flat into a semi detatched house and could regularly hear the neighbours having... fun, which was awkward and like something from a comedy.

I'm much happier in a detatched property - but this also seems like an obvious and out of touch statement - "this lamborghini gets me to work way faster, I don't know why everyone doesn't just buy lamborghinis"

I've never lived in a flat luckily, and I don't think I ever could. I probably have some kind of breakdown lol.
I don't know why they don't just build properties with better soundproofing!

I didn't have much choice with the detached though as my son is autistic and literally jumps on the floor and bangs into walls all day and late into the evening! It sounds like a herd of elephants. I couldn't force that on another neighbor. I don't think they would have been as good as my last one about it.

You are right, though, It's not exactly a solution for a first time buyer who just got on the ladder. 

I will never understand why all semis are built with adjoining living areas and bedrooms, makes more sense to have the hallways and stairs adjoining