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I am sure you are a bit shocked to finally get a firm diagnosis, although I feel you may have suspected it for some time. My late son was diagnosed at the age of 38 after years of struggling - he was extremely intelligent and was a whizz at computer programming so had a good job but found it hard to deal with certain aspects of it such as time management, interactions with other team members, and the "social" aspect which was expected. The diagnosis helped him, me, and his managers to understand those difficulties and adapt in order to help him. He never considered himself to be disabled but "differently abled". It could help if your employers are aware of your diagnosis so that they can understand and provide help but I get that you may not feel able to be open about things just yet. I did wonder if life would have been better for my son if he had been diagnosed earlier (although autism wasn't quite so well understood in the 1970's) but he wasn't keen on being "labelled" so he said he was glad we didn't know. He was aware that he was "different" to his friends but like you he masked by copying (not always in a good way though), and I just thought of him as being very shy. I hope you find some support for yourself and wish you well in your new job.foxandflowers said:Happy New Year friends
I had my autism assessment yesterday and I got a full house. The lady said I hit every diagnostic criteria on the DSM V. I really don't know how I feel about it. I am sad, and tired, and angry. And I suppose now I have to come to terms with technically being disabled. And she asked me some very probing questions that I hadn't considered were related to ASD and it appears I have been masking for as long as I can remember, which would be approximately age 4 when I read Milly Molly Mandy and decided my life would be better if I could be 'good' like Little Susan and tried to emulate her personality instead of my own. I'm not even sure who I am without the mask. So I guess this year will entail a lot of unpicking and figuring out while I try and learn about myself, only this time I've been given the guidebook.
Oh, I've always been impatient so I'd love to see the pictures now please, but you could always send them again once you've done the painting! My (very tiny) kitchen is horrendous! We moved in a couple of years ago & inherited a kitchen that must have been put in 50 years ago. The wall tiles have bunches of carrots & onions etc on them! Needless to say, my OH can't see anything wrong with them!foxandflowers said:Happy New Year friends
I had my autism assessment yesterday and I got a full house. The lady said I hit every diagnostic criteria on the DSM V. I really don't know how I feel about it. I am sad, and tired, and angry. And I suppose now I have to come to terms with technically being disabled. And she asked me some very probing questions that I hadn't considered were related to ASD and it appears I have been masking for as long as I can remember, which would be approximately age 4 when I read Milly Molly Mandy and decided my life would be better if I could be 'good' like Little Susan and tried to emulate her personality instead of my own. I'm not even sure who I am without the mask. So I guess this year will entail a lot of unpicking and figuring out while I try and learn about myself, only this time I've been given the guidebook...
@kayannie yes happy to share photos of the kitchen - although it hasn't been painted yet! let me know if you want to wait until I've painted it first, as that may be more persuasive haha.
1 diamond painting has been completed, and 1 cross stitch is underway. I have been out for a walk both nights so far this year (and got absolutely drenched in the process). Spends are at £42.82 - £9.60 on the return ticket to work today, £5 to the husband to cover a bill (not sure this should count), and £28.22 in Co-op. I don't think I can file any NSD's so far, but I am low spending.
Off to Harry Potter tomorrow and the van has gone in for a service today - but I aim to NSD completely at least 4 days next week!
Thank you! You've got the kind of doors that I want (Shaker style I think?). Can't decide if I want natural wood or painted. Our kitchen is very tiny so shouldn't cost too much. My OH says he can make them - he was a carpenter so should know what he's doing, but he hasn't said when! You are brave, going swimming in the sea. I live on the coast but haven't even had a paddle recently.foxandflowers said:
