Charging me rent at 16

elsien

Has the OP removed or edited a post as I can see nothing about a father anywhere? 

£345 a month is a lot to be getting for someone who doesn’t think they are costing the family home anything extra on top of the usual living costs. Are there costs that you’re not thinking about?
Your contribution still leaves you £225 a month. Would that not pay for physio etc and the other things that you need? 

You are probably going to have to moderate your expectations with regards to council housing as well. 

OP some of this is sounding very familiar. Have previous threads of yours been removed? 

lisyloo

elsien said:

Has the OP removed or edited a post as I can see nothing about a father anywhere? 

£345 a month is a lot to be getting for someone who doesn’t think they are costing the family home anything extra on top of the usual living costs. Are there costs that you’re not thinking about?
Your contribution still leaves you £225 a month. Would that not pay for physio etc and the other things that you need? 

You are probably going to have to moderate your expectations with regards to council housing as well. 

OP some of this is sounding very familiar. Have previous threads of yours been removed? 

 Nothing mentioned and apologies if he’s passed away.

poppy12345

lisyloo said:

elsien said:

Has the OP removed or edited a post as I can see nothing about a father anywhere? 

£345 a month is a lot to be getting for someone who doesn’t think they are costing the family home anything extra on top of the usual living costs. Are there costs that you’re not thinking about?
Your contribution still leaves you £225 a month. Would that not pay for physio etc and the other things that you need? 

You are probably going to have to moderate your expectations with regards to council housing as well. 

OP some of this is sounding very familiar. Have previous threads of yours been removed? 

 Nothing mentioned and apologies if he’s passed away.

Just because there's no father mentioned, this doesn't mean he's passed away.

Spoonie_Turtle

poppy12345 said:

lisyloo said:

elsien said:

Has the OP removed or edited a post as I can see nothing about a father anywhere? 

£345 a month is a lot to be getting for someone who doesn’t think they are costing the family home anything extra on top of the usual living costs. Are there costs that you’re not thinking about?
Your contribution still leaves you £225 a month. Would that not pay for physio etc and the other things that you need? 

You are probably going to have to moderate your expectations with regards to council housing as well. 

OP some of this is sounding very familiar. Have previous threads of yours been removed? 

 Nothing mentioned and apologies if he’s passed away.

Just because there's no father mentioned, this doesn't mean he's passed away.

That's what the "if" was there for, in case that were the situation rather than the previous hypothesised circumstance (which could have been quite hurtful to read if the father had indeed died).

gf3978114

Im going to be taking a short break due to strsss and come back to this forum soon.

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Only you and mother will know the exact dynamics of it, but as a mum myself I would consider it 'may' be that knowing your relationship is 'difficult' and that as soon as possible you will want to be independent and in your own place , she is actually trying to prepare you somewhat by taking money from you now.  You may  find that (disabled or otherwise, that in one sense is not relevant) you are underestimating how much 'spare' cash there will be to spend when your essential bills are met, there may not BE money to pay privately for physiotherapy. You may find that you have underestimated the 'non obvious' bills, not just food and clothes and rent etc,  but insurances, and breakdown costs if something like the washing machine fails. IF you can find a good time when you're not both angry, you could ask for a chat just to go through the household costs, put it nicely that you will at some point need to know how to budget and you'd like her help now rather than fighting over it? Good luck. 

macman

Don't you need to be an adult (18 years old) to apply for social housing? Benefits may help you with rent and bills, but they certainly won't pay all of them (council tax, gas, electricity, water, phone, broadband, just for starters).

Savvy_Sue

macman said:

Don't you need to be an adult (18 years old) to apply for social housing? Benefits may help you with rent and bills, but they certainly won't pay all of them (council tax, gas, electricity, water, phone, broadband, just for starters).

No, not always. Much easier if you have the support of an appropriate support worker. And of course you can marry at 16 north of the border!

gf3978114

I ended up paying the money because i'll end up living with her for the unforeseeable and she has the ability to make my life very difficult and distressing. So I just payed it for the sake of whatever wellbeing I can salvage with the way she already is. 

She sat there and calmly told me that my friendless is fake. That I somehow deserved everything that has happened to me. (Severe  bullying including physical, isolation, withdrawal, PTSD and trauma) and I can say tell you all that I did not.

As the adult she was meant to protect me or atleast get me the help that I needed throughout my life, but she didn't. She took me to the middle of nowhere to homeschool me and live what was essentially a lock down with no in real life friends for the past six years and somehow thought the respite would help me. I was withdrawn and afraid of people anyway, so she didn't see it as a problem. I now do.

So when I had moving to a town to look forward to, which would have meant having a bit more of a normal life, being closer to society, but the buyers of this house threatened just last night to pull out if we didn't accept the asking price!! We only accepted their offer because it was decent. Nothings come up that should lead them to lower their offer. This was was planned deliberately, so we would panic last minute. we were due to move to our new house the following day (today), so i have been distraught. They're not short of money, millionaire house flippers and did it deliberately and this house could make them a lot of money.

So we've turned it back around on them and said if they don't accept it by 5pm today we are pulling out. There's a chance they'll accept it because this is the only house for sale in the area that they want. But this delay and the fact that someone would pull a stunt like this on me feels like a personal insult. Even if they don't accept we can sell to someone else in about a month.

I'm feeling miserable and thinking about life and how !!!!!! its been.

noitsnotme

gf3978114 said:

So when I had moving to a town to look forward to, which would have meant having a bit more of a normal life, being closer to society, but the buyers of this house threatened just last night to pull out if we didn't accept the asking price!! We only accepted their offer because it was decent. Nothings come up that should lead them to lower their offer. This was was planned deliberately, so we would panic last minute. we were due to move to our new house the following day (today), 

That doesn’t make sense.  If you were due to move today then contracts must have already been exchanged previously which means the agreed price was already committed to and it would be too late for them renegotiate the price.

Its far too late for anyone to be pulling out without breaching the contract.  What about your new house, is that being purchased too?  If today is moving day then contracts will have also been exchanged on that and the sellers will be expecting to be paid today.  Anyone pulling out now will find themselves in a very expensive messy situation.