Brothers passing

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Hello All,
My little brother past away 2 weeks ago at aged 28 with a cardiac arrest. Im beside myself as I am left to sort everything out as I am his closest relative. He doesnt have any children nor partner or anything so its left to me to sort out. I doubt he had a will due to his age.
His work have stepped up and offered to help with the funeral costs which is fantastic.
I wasnt sure if our mum was around, as she had not been in our life for him (25 years) and me I saw her 18 years ago. When I spoke to the police, i did ask about their help to contact her etc, and they gave me the impression she is also now deceased. I asked the question multiple ways and their answer was "All I can tell you is, as far as us the police and the coroner are concerned and the information we have, you are his next of kin" I was sort of afraid she might just appear out the blue but that has reassured me now. I know it sounds bad but our mum had some severe mental health issues and could be seen as a danger.
So I know theres nothing in his bank, as its confirmed now and he owes them 1000 on the overdraft, they said he had a pension which i assume that will have to pay off the over draft. I also think he has a death in service. Im not bothered where it goes as long as it doesnt go to someone automatically who hasnt been in his life. The other thought I had recently is he started this job (5 years ago) when he was dating someone for a couple of months and he was besotted. She done the dirty on him and they were only together 3/4 months. Im just concerned that he may have named her when he started the job. If so, is there anyway I can appeal it? or is that deemed his wishes. I just again dont want someone profitting off him whilst hes dead. Now if he named his best friend I dont have any issues what so ever as the guy has been a rock and supported my brother.
Thanks
My little brother past away 2 weeks ago at aged 28 with a cardiac arrest. Im beside myself as I am left to sort everything out as I am his closest relative. He doesnt have any children nor partner or anything so its left to me to sort out. I doubt he had a will due to his age.
His work have stepped up and offered to help with the funeral costs which is fantastic.
I wasnt sure if our mum was around, as she had not been in our life for him (25 years) and me I saw her 18 years ago. When I spoke to the police, i did ask about their help to contact her etc, and they gave me the impression she is also now deceased. I asked the question multiple ways and their answer was "All I can tell you is, as far as us the police and the coroner are concerned and the information we have, you are his next of kin" I was sort of afraid she might just appear out the blue but that has reassured me now. I know it sounds bad but our mum had some severe mental health issues and could be seen as a danger.
So I know theres nothing in his bank, as its confirmed now and he owes them 1000 on the overdraft, they said he had a pension which i assume that will have to pay off the over draft. I also think he has a death in service. Im not bothered where it goes as long as it doesnt go to someone automatically who hasnt been in his life. The other thought I had recently is he started this job (5 years ago) when he was dating someone for a couple of months and he was besotted. She done the dirty on him and they were only together 3/4 months. Im just concerned that he may have named her when he started the job. If so, is there anyway I can appeal it? or is that deemed his wishes. I just again dont want someone profitting off him whilst hes dead. Now if he named his best friend I dont have any issues what so ever as the guy has been a rock and supported my brother.
Thanks
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If you know where your mother lived, it should be relatively easy to find out if she has passed away, as you can simply check if a death certificate has been issued. If there are any assets in the estate after debts are paid, then this issue must be addressed, as under the laws of intestacy, your parents are the first beneficiaries. Only if both have died do you inherit any assets, equally with any siblings.
I'd speak to the pension provider and follow-up with an email or letter. Check who the beneficiary is and if you need to trace your parent's death. They may have their own tracers but if it's down to you, take it a step at a time.
If you know where your mum used to live, try looking on Ancestry at the local history or main library; many have the Library version on-line. They have details of the electoral roll until 2010. A bit of a long shot as she may not have lived a very stable life, and she may have ticked the box to remove herself from the public register.
Then see if she continued to be registered at that address by copying it into 192.com and searching on her name.
Ancestry only has details of English and Welsh deaths until 2007.
You can find English and Welsh deaths for the more relevant period here:
General Register Office - Online Indexes - Search the GRO Online Indexes
Scottish deaths are on scotlandspeople and are indexed on birth name, married name and mother's maiden name, although that is sometimes wrong.
Avoid the fakename companies who charge 10 times as much for a certificate and buy from the GRO rather than Ancestry.
And if your brother's friends and colleagues attend the funeral, take time to chat to them as it's just possible one of them knows something useful.
A living parent is first in line to deal with this estate(no spouse or kids)
They are especially keen for insolvent estates as council/hospital are responsible for funerals if no one steps up.
As the funeral costs are being covered, you can just walk away from the rest.