Any Suggestions??

mum2one

As Gingham Ribbon said - your a great friend, I would add a friend in a million, youve taken time to see what is best,your considerate.

Everybody reacts differently to situations, all you could do for now is send a card "thinking of you" and be there for when she needs you.

Theres always a lot of people around at the time,but its later she may need the support.

It would have been my sister 40th birthday sept this yr, I got my mum a bouquet of flowers.

Spendless

mum2one wrote: »

My mum lost her 1st daughter and was given a poem, the 1st verse

"I'll lend you for a little time
A child of mine he said
for you to love while she lives
and mourn for when shes dead
it may be six or seven days
or twenty two or three
but till I call I her back
take care of her for me"

It's called God's lent child
http://www.geocities.com/justcinful/2/Lent.html

I would be wary of something for your friend. It's taken me 8 years to be able to put out an ornament that was bought days before I was told my baby wasn't going to survive (lost at 17 weeks pregnant), as it just reminded me of that time. Cards I appreciated, and I did get myself an album to put them all in to keep.

poppyscorner

I too lost my baby she was stillborn at 31weeks and I wanted no gifts because none of them helped.

All I wanted was someone to listen and someones shoulder to cry on alot of my friend then knew what happened and chose to ignore it I believe its because they did not know what to say but they need not have said anything just to call for a chat would have been nice I missed them and we are no longer friends as I felt they were not there when I needed them.

I would say just be there for her listen to her heartache and dry her tears she just needs to know other people care.

I must say what a lovely friend you are I wished I had had a few more like you when my daughter died.

Poppy x