Weekly Flylady Thread 22nd August 2022

Dizzy_Imp

Please send help because I'm really struggling.  I am having the most awful time of things and I just don't know what to do to make it all stop.

***Flylady rant***

Car broke down at the vets on Wednesday, with 10 small puppies who were overheating in the baking sun.   I had left Small at home as a "trust" event as he wanted to prove he was responsible.   Husband is stuck in a motorway jam near Poole in Dorset.  Five hours later I return home on the back of a flatbed truck as, despite having zero and I mean zero money, I had renewed the Green Flag breakdown recovery, to a tearful Small who had been checked on by my friend Mrs W who heroically rescued Tiny and the puppies from me an hour into my ordeal.  

Just before this happened, all of my cards were declined at the vets.  Every single one.  Humiliating in the extreme.  The practice agreed that I could have a few days grace, so I left, almost in tears, to then break down and sit in their carpark for 4 hours before any recovery man could get to me.  Car appears to be totally knackered and i have no way or means to get it repaired.

Hideous weekend of money rows and tears.

Monday - husband unforms me that he's away with work again until Tuesday evening, then fails to supervise the dogs properly during feeding and two have a huge fight, leaving the younger one with a massive shoulder wound.  I did my best to patch things up but had to take her to the vets today to be told that there's ligament damage and the bill will be in the region of £400 to fix. Great. No, really, just great.

Halfway home I get a phone call to say two of my dogs are on the road and a neighbour further down has them in their stables.  I left Small in charge for 20 minutes... Dogs collected, Facebook updated to answer all the questions people had sent to me and husband calls to shout at me from Portsmouth saying everything is my fault. I have just screamed at him that our marriage is over.

Where do I go from here?

Sorry all but I've got nowhere else I can write this all down. I hate my life.

[Deleted User]

Oh Dizzy. I know you’ve had ‘the chat’ with him before. Wherever you go from here I hope it’s the right thing for you xx

We’ve been out all day at various parks, with a picnic of course 😉. I’m now watching them swim (swimming is free every day during the holidays for children at our local baths, hence us being here so much). 

Lots to do tomorrow; DD going to a sleepover so it’ll be just me and DS. I finished my book last night so will choose another to start tonight xx

pigpen

mumtoomany said:

And that one looks a lot like my third one before she became he. We must be related somewhere along the way, or just both know how to produce beautiful children/grandchildren. Ha ha.

It must be the latter. She is the absolute clone of her dad who is of dutch descent and they only have 2 children in his family (until we had 4) so we must just make terribly beautiful babies and grandbabies by sheer luck... She looks very little like my other 11.. she could get away with not being mine whereas none of the others could.

Dizzy my love.. if you want my number so you can ring and rant and scream and rage then you are very welcome to it and my inbox is always open if you need it.. I might not have anything useful to say but just getting stuff off your chest helps process things.. DH sounds like he is being a prize kn0b and he might actually be doing you a favour!!

DW done

New washer still not spinning and now my washing has been washed 3 times and is still smelly because it won't spin.. they crushed the waste pipe when they installed it and now it won't empty unless I drag it into the middle of the kitchen floor.. I am phoning the insurance people.. tomorrow.. I don't have the brain energy right now.

kazwookie

Dizzy, my heart goes out to you all, I don't think I have anything useful to say, except try talking to OH again.

Major walk done today, just past 700K..................1 million I am coming to get you, in fact I am starting to snap at your heels  

Ironing is done and away

Honey_Bear

Valli, that sounds nasty, uncomfortable, painful and distressing.  I'm so sorry it isn't healing as it should.  I hope the appointment on Thursday manages to start solving whatever the cause is. 

Dizzy, my heart goes out to you.  You sound exhasted and demoralized, and I know I shouldn't say this but I want to slap your OH.  Sometimes it seems a little kindness is too much to ask, but it really shouldn't be.  Feel free to rant here whenever you feel the need or want to do so.  It's what we're here for, the Flylady Love.  It's certainly not about dusting, is it?

The new regime for pain relief is a tad too strong for me so I'm going to cut the dose in half, which given the type of drug it is is a very good thing.  I've spent most the day too doped up to do very much but I have tidied up my nest area and started packing an overnight bag for the admission whenever that will be so I don't have to do everything at the last minute.

mumtoomany

@pigpen, mine are all the image of their father, so you must be right.
@Dizzy_Imp, you are having such a bad time of it at the moment. I feel for you, if there is anything i can do for you,just shout. Us English "refugees" in Wales need to stick together. Take care of yourself. xxx

pigpen

ooh Dizzy.. if you're in the north of the land of leeks and sheep I have some helping hands I can send your way ? I have a animal adoring piglet at uni over there

YORKSHIRELASS

Aww Dizzy you dont deserve this love, you really dont.  I cant offer any useful advice but I am here if you want to vent, and keep posting.  We all care about you.

Kaz you are doing so well with the walking, it's very impressive.

DS has made an appointment for the scan in 3 weeks time.  He has also given permission for me to make future appointments.  They say we should have results in 4-6 weeks, which is good.

Paid stuff is tricky, I am tired, can shake this off.  Took the car into work as I just couldnt be bothered to cycle.  DH tells me I have to look after myself, I know he is right.

Err, Flying, oh I have changed our bed.  WM is going.

Valli

Aww Dizzy…massive hugs.   

I have itched all day but plasters seem clear.  Hospital Thursday anyway, then I’m going out for lunch with the female aged P, as the male one will be golfing.  I have booked us in at the new place my very posh ‘neighbours’ have opened up and which my friend and I hope will bring new life to our favourite shopping village.  Since they’ve bought it all.  We shall see…but booking is essential.  

WUALTD.  Two meals mainly sourced from the freezer, was YS sausages yesterday and YS fish and parmentier potatoes today.  Bins emptied.

DD just called me in to catch a spider.  Missed it, chased it with the vacuum.  Still missed it but she doesn’t know that.  Just hoping it stays wherever it scurried to.  

ionafan

Enormous (((hugs))) to Dizzy, Small and Tiny - I hope things improve for you very soon xxx

Healing vibes to Valli.  Enjoy your posh lunch x

Well done to your DS, YL x

Well done on the steps, kazwookie x

Yesterday I ran my study group, did WMx3, hung/folded everything so that I didn't need to do any ironing, put 2 meals on the table, walked Rosie and made a tiny bit of progress with the admin.  The house is tidy, but don't look too hard for dust or you might find some!
DH prepared breakfast, went to SW and might have done something else but it wasn't obvious. Grrr.

We are off to our old cathedral city today to visit friends.  I haven't packed yet.

Must hoover round downstairs before we go...

Catch up later xx