Accepting a job offer but I may change my mind

TBagpuss

JReacher1 said:

TELLIT01 said:

JReacher1 said:

Despite your assertions company B won't be blackballing the OP from any future employment opportunities as they won't take this decision personally, in business a situation like this happens all the time.  Company B will almost certainly have a second candidate for the job who they have not rejected yet and will then probably offer the job to.

Some will but others won't.  If I had recruited somebody who accepted and then turned down a job they wouldn't be top of my list to recruit if another vacancy came along.  Why should I be any more confident they wouldn't do the same thing again?

You're confusing the individual with the company.  Although it is possible that the person who offered the position may feel slighted and hold a grudge the company itself won't.  The job market is very competitive at the moment and the employee has never had so much power.

In fact if anyone was going to blackball the OP it would probably be the company he is currently employed at.  They have only been employed for a year and have left to do the same job for a new company after turning down a salary increase at his current place of work.  That is far more likely to lead to a "do not reemploy" status associated with the employee as opposed to the new company.

I feel we are digressing though but back to my original point which is the OP is not a "Low life" for choosing to stay with the company he is at if they offer him a payrise.

I don't think it's necessarily all or nothing.  

I agree than generally speaking, no one is going to be holding a grudge, but an employer (or any size) doesn't need to hold a grudge to take into account all the information they have about a job applicant. If one of the pieces of information they have is that the person accepted a job previously and then backed out, then they are likelyto take that into account in considering whether to offer and interview and then whether to offer a job. 

So while it won't automatically, or even typically, mean that they are 'blackballed' , it is likely to mean that they have reduced their chancs of being offered nother job with that company.of course, how much it reduces their changes will depend on a lot of facrtors, and is likely to be different evey time. Things like  how good a candidate they are, how manuy other good candidates they have, how urgently they need to fill the role,  how long the gap is between the two applications, and what their job history generally looks like,  what other candidates there are, how costly (fiancially and in terms of HR / Interviewers time etc) the process of recruiting is, and no doubt other things I haven't thought of! 

SChitmehard

Most employers don't really give a toss about employees and will stiff them when/if needed. How often do we see that here with people posting their bad experiences. There is nothing wrong with playing 2 employers off against another, employers do this with staff all the time (Miss Jones output is 100% of target and yours is 80% - may be true or a total lie to make you work harder etc so they play you off against another employee) so go for it and play them too. I interviewed people for positions and understood if they got a better offer elsewhere, and often said to my boss that that is how work place is, people will take the job/employer that gives most pay/benefits and so we should complete on pay and benefits not moan when employee rejects us. 

TBagpuss

SChitmehard said:

Most employers don't really give a toss about employees and will stiff them when/if needed. How often do we see that here with people posting their bad experiences. There is nothing wrong with playing 2 employers off against another, employers do this with staff all the time (Miss Jones output is 100% of target and yours is 80% - may be true or a total lie to make you work harder etc so they play you off against another employee) so go for it and play them too. I interviewed people for positions and understood if they got a better offer elsewhere, and often said to my boss that that is how work place is, people will take the job/employer that gives most pay/benefits and so we should complete on pay and benefits not moan when employee rejects us. 

well, in fairness mostly people will be posting becuase they are having a problem of some kind, people are far less likely to come to a forum to post about how they are happy and their employer treats them well! 

There may be a minority of employers who deliberately play staff mmembers off agaisnt each other but I don't belive it's normal or widespread. Equally, there are undoubtably some employees who would prefer to assume that their employer is lying to them than accept that their performance may be lower than that of some of their colleagues, but I don't think that most employees think that way. 

I think it is true that most employers treat the employer/employee relationship as a professional rather than personal one.