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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I get my brother a cheaper cupboard and use the money saved for fuel?
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Just tell him the cost of each option, including any petrol you want him to cover, and let him take his pick.
Simple! All you had to do was ask him.4 -
Don't you like your brother?1
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I think you and your brother need to sit down and talk, the fact that you're considering defrauding him for a moderate amount of money makes me concerned for you. If you are seriously considering this and this is not just a made up dilemma, I would also suggest that you consult a Financial guide to discuss your money situation with them. Times are tight for all of us right now and there's no shame in seeking advice or in turning down your Brother's request for help if you cannot afford to drive it to him. Tell your Brother about the Marketplace advert, refund any monies already given and please, consider calling CAP who would be very happy to help you x"Araf deg mae mynd ymhell" - "Go Slowly, Go Far"
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He's your brother. Who know's what the future brings. The world is full of people with regret about stupid disagreements about minor things. Tell him about the deal if he wants it to save some money, forget about the fuel whatever (if you want to be cheeky tell him he owes you a good night out next time your together). In X many years time if you or he go through some real crisis (health, family, job, significant money etc.) do you want a mate, or do you want someone you do paid errands for?1
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NO, NO and also NO.
Get him what he wants and take it to him. If you really don't want to, tell him that. But don't be deceptive and mean.
It could be that when you turn up he'll give you not just the cost of the cupboard but also a meal and also some cash for your petrol money. If he doesn't, so be it. But no, please don't be mean with relatives, especially close ones.
(My qualifications: I also have a brother.)
Please note - taken from the Forum Rules and amended for my own personal use (with thanks) : It is up to you to investigate, check, double-check and check yet again before you make any decisions or take any action based on any information you glean from any of my posts. Although I do carry out careful research before posting and never intend to mislead or supply out-of-date or incorrect information, please do not rely 100% on what you are reading. Verify everything in order to protect yourself as you are responsible for any action you consequently take.1 -
You know this for a true fact? If so, how so?Matt_Robbo said:
95% (or more) are made up.bikaga said:95% of these dilemmas could remain unpublished if people just talked to each other.Please note - taken from the Forum Rules and amended for my own personal use (with thanks) : It is up to you to investigate, check, double-check and check yet again before you make any decisions or take any action based on any information you glean from any of my posts. Although I do carry out careful research before posting and never intend to mislead or supply out-of-date or incorrect information, please do not rely 100% on what you are reading. Verify everything in order to protect yourself as you are responsible for any action you consequently take.0 -
No, not even this ^^^JamesyMac said:Ask him to contribute to your petrol. The other idea is just awful.Please note - taken from the Forum Rules and amended for my own personal use (with thanks) : It is up to you to investigate, check, double-check and check yet again before you make any decisions or take any action based on any information you glean from any of my posts. Although I do carry out careful research before posting and never intend to mislead or supply out-of-date or incorrect information, please do not rely 100% on what you are reading. Verify everything in order to protect yourself as you are responsible for any action you consequently take.0 -
I would only buy the cheaper marketplace one after asking your brother with the intention of saving him money. I would also explain that it’s 50 miles for you and he needs to cover your cost, just be honest.1
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Driving the 50 miles to his house and back is going to cost more than the 40 pounds delivery charge if you take into account depreciation, fuel cost, insurance etc.
If it was me I would tell him about the cheaper online cupboard.... we all like a bargain in these tough times and then wait till you both meet up to give it to him. His original idea is cheapskate mixed with stupidity. Yours is downright deceptive0
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