Leaving a group

sim2335

I’m in a group with some of my relatives, I don’t like it and want to leave because I don’t really get involed feel like a outsider and almost every time I say something people will take the mick, so I don’t feel like saying anything.

Or randomly just bring my name into things for a joke.

My mum is get really angry when I said I want as there’s events etc on that she thinks I will miss out on.

Don’t get me wrong I enjoy meeting them and hanging out but not on group chat it’s too much and I don’t wanna meet them all time.

Sometimes they go a bit far when I defend myself, or say a joke back.

It ruins my whole day, even when I was happy, I start thinking what must people be thinking, etc and think people look down on me etc

Why should I stay with people who don’t respect me.

The Important things they will still invite me, it may be a nusicince for them to message me separately plus I don’t wanna make a big issue when I leave. And my mum thinks why don’t I wanna get involed with family, I told her they take mick and she’s just like ignore it.

Other things I enjoy she doesn’t like I meet Hare Krishna, really enjoy it and she’s like you will get brainwashed and that’s all you will think about.

And there going on a trip for 4 days, only for 175 and mum was thinking I was mad for wanting to go, and waste of money, and how will you afford anything elese etc.

Ms_Chocaholic

Can you mute the group and not get involved and just look at it from time to time for events etc

sim2335

Ms_Chocaholic said:

Can you mute the group and not get involved and just look at it from time to time for events etc

I have muted the group, if I don’t say anything they just bring my name into things, then I need to respond.

and it seemed weird if I’m the only person in group not saying anything ever

elsien

So just leave it then. You don’t have to flounce or make a big announcement, just quietly leave. It’s really not a big deal. 

Although if they bring your name into things on the group, you don’t have to feel obliged to respond. I’m in a family group and I ignore most of what’s being said. And other family members don’t comment at all - each to their own. 

sim2335

They may make it a big deal, by asking why I left or private message or face to face.

Be annoyed because they have to send a separate message to invite me.

Not invite me because they feel I’m not intrested which is not true. 

I don’t always respond when my names brought in.

I’m not into their type of banter and they always trying to bring me in.

Pollycat

sim2335 said:

Why should I stay with people who don’t respect me.

You don't have to.

sim2335 said:

I’m in a group with some of my relatives, I don’t like it and want to leave because I don’t really get involed feel like a outsider and almost every time I say something people will take the mick, so I don’t feel like saying anything.

Or randomly just bring my name into things for a joke.

My mum is get really angry when I said I want as there’s events etc on that she thinks I will miss out on.

Don’t get me wrong I enjoy meeting them and hanging out but not on group chat it’s too much and I don’t wanna meet them all time.

Sometimes they go a bit far when I defend myself, or say a joke back.

It ruins my whole day, even when I was happy, I start thinking what must people be thinking, etc and think people look down on me etc

Why should I stay with people who don’t respect me.

The Important things they will still invite me, it may be a nusicince for them to message me separately plus I don’t wanna make a big issue when I leave. And my mum thinks why don’t I wanna get involed with family, I told her they take mick and she’s just like ignore it.

Other things I enjoy she doesn’t like I meet Hare Krishna, really enjoy it and she’s like you will get brainwashed and that’s all you will think about.

And there going on a trip for 4 days, only for 175 and mum was thinking I was mad for wanting to go, and waste of money, and how will you afford anything elese etc.

The bits in bold are contradictory.
You say you Mum thinks you will miss out on events if you're not part of the group but then says you're "mad for wanting to go" on  a trip.

I really believe that you are over-thinking all your relationships - with friends and with family.

kazwookie

How old are you? what has it got to do with your mother?

Click delete or what ever and leave the group, end off. No need to get upset or angry or stressed about it, life is too short.

Someone once told me, you can choose your friends, but not your relatives.

Just have nothing to do with them or anyone else in your life who upsets you.  No need to respond to their naming of you, block and deleted is wonderful.

sim2335

I don’t have to stay with them but still have to meet them weddings, birthdays etc and I like meeeting them but not all time, and depends on event.

My mum wants me to mix with friends and relatives my own age which they are.
Not go to a religious group and meet people there.

For example Like yesteray  I put for example, someone made a joke so I made a joke back, then obvious was stated, so I put rolling eyes up, then he said !!!!!!,

that ruined my week like what people think etc, no one wants to be associated with people like me who no respects, how will I face everyone when o see them etc, there he is guy that gets feasted, why should we take him seriously.

worse thing I’m not into all there stuff banter, be rude etc

that’s when it can get too far, how you respond to that, that ruined my whole week, even the normal banter I don’t like, sometimes friend helps me banter back., 

Sea_Shell

sim2335 said:

I don’t have to stay with them but still have to meet them weddings, birthdays etc and I like meeeting them but not all time, and depends on event.

My mum wants me to mix with friends and relatives my own age which they are.
Not go to a religious group and meet people there.

For example Like yesteray  I put for example, someone made a joke so I made a joke back, then obvious was stated, so I put rolling eyes up, then he said !!!!!!,

that ruined my week like what people think etc, no one wants to be associated with people like me who no respects, how will I face everyone when o see them etc, there he is guy that gets feasted, why should we take him seriously.

worse thing I’m not into all there stuff banter, be rude etc

that’s when it can get too far, how you respond to that, that ruined my whole week, even the normal banter I don’t like, sometimes friend helps me banter back., 

Which friend is this?   A new one, or the same one(s) you've previously had problems with?

Do you still live in the family home?   If so, why do you need to be in an "on line" group with family?

Are you worried about missing out on things and not feeling included?   But then being IN the group doesn't seem to be making you feel included either.

elsien

sim2335 said:

I don’t have to stay with them but still have to meet them weddings, birthdays etc and I like meeeting them but not all time, and depends on event.

My mum wants me to mix with friends and relatives my own age which they are.
Not go to a religious group and meet people there.

For example Like yesteray  I put for example, someone made a joke so I made a joke back, then obvious was stated, so I put rolling eyes up, then he said !!!!!!,

that ruined my week like what people think etc, no one wants to be associated with people like me who no respects, how will I face everyone when o see them etc, there he is guy that gets feasted, why should we take him seriously.

worse thing I’m not into all there stuff banter, be rude etc

that’s when it can get too far, how you respond to that, that ruined my whole week, even the normal banter I don’t like, sometimes friend helps me banter back., 

You are seriously overthinking this. Things come across differently online than they do in person. My sibling uses rude emojis towards me in group chats - doesn’t mean he doesn’t respect me and certainly not something to brood over for a week.

Emmia

Honestly just leave the group, if they ask to your face "why" just say that it's not really your cup of tea.

If they persist in this, block their number.