Always believed i was adopted or similar. Please help me understand dna

raineydays

Hi I always felt different to my family but had a terrible childhood so assumed it was just wishful thinking. I recently had a dna test done of myself, mother and brother
 These are the results. Awaiting maternal email.

So he isn't my full brother? But is he half?
Is my mother my mother going by this?
I've asked the company why they didn't confirm maternal and they are getting the lab to call.

My head is a mess

My instincts were correct?

RAS

I think people need to know who you tested with? 

raineydays

Ah ok sorry
 So it was the full sibling and maternity test with diagnostic dna centre

RAS

I think you are going to find that most people have used one of the family history tests like Ancestry, 23andme or findmypast. They also show up NPE situations quite frequently, which leads to some interesting conversations. So fewer will know how to read this report.

The family history type of tests could also give you a clue as to who you father might be, although I know people who have discovered they are not related to their paternal line and have no close matches on-line. It would be impossible from this to work out whether it is yourself or your brother who has the unexpected father.

What has your mother said about the situation?

theoretica

If I am reading that right, your mother has two numbers for each test reading (each row).  Each of her children will have inherited one of those numbers from her (with a little potential variation as genetics is complicated) and one from the father.  Looking down the list, the numbers for you and your sibling do look like one of the numbers in your column matches one of the numbers in the mother column - so likely she is mother to both of you.

Sandtree

Dont you have a copy of your birth certificate? Assuming you were born and raised in the UK then there will be a birth certificate for you, if you were adopted your birth certificate doesn't change but you get an adoption certificate.

Whilst birth certificates aren't reliable for who the father is... there is no test done etc and if the mother is married to the supposed father she can name him without his consent/knowledge... they are reliable for the birth mother. 

Grumpelstiltskin

Agree with RAS what does your mother say?

If as you think you and your brother have different fathers she must realise by doing a DNA test you will find out.

Don't know what the 3 tests cost but Ancestry regularly have offers of £59 each and there is a much higher chance of finding relatives though that test.

raineydays

Hi so I am 57 years old. My mother i care for. I always had suspicions I was different. I was very badly abused by my 'father' horrifically so. None of the other children were.
I will be having the discussion with my mother. I believe the brother is def the man's child but obviously without dna I will never 100 percent know.

raineydays

Re birth cert yes I do have. I always hoped and assumed it was genuine re no way even back then to forge. As you can imagine you start doubting everything 

RAS

Your mum may or may not be prepared to tell you "the truth."

It is possible she doesn't even know the truth; or may have hoped that her partner was her child's father, and had reason to think it was possible. 

If you want to test further, it might be useful to test a couple of cousins, preferably those descended from your parents' sisters. And use a mainstream family history provider as they will be cheaper and offer the chance of detecting your genetic father. 

I was on one site for two years before I got a DNA link that solved a historic problem. More recently, another "closer to home" popped up. Looks like an NPE and the owner doesn't want to know. So just leaving it until they want to explore.

Grumpelstiltskin

Your birth certificate will show your mother's husband as being your father because in the case of a married couple the husband was assumed to be the father unless 'someone' said something different and the actual father turned up at the registration.

It is possible your father knew or suspected that he wasn't your father and he perhaps was resentful of bringing up another man's child.