I bought a second-hand dress online for £25. After it arrived, the seller messaged me saying she missed the dress and that she'd buy it back if I didn't like it. After wearing it a few times, I've now decided to sell it, but I've seen this dress can fetch up to £120. I've listed it back on the same site I got it from for that price, but the original seller has now messaged, asking if it's "her" dress and saying she wants it back, and if I'd do it for the £25 that I paid her.
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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I sell a dress back to the seller for the same price I paid?
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REJP said:No. I tried to just leave my reply as "No" but told I had not used enough characters. I don't see this situation as a "Moral" Dilemma at all.0
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MSE_Kelvin said:This week's MoneySaver who wants advice asks...
If I were in your shoes I would sell it to the highest bidder, tell her unfortunately you are aware it can fetch more so as you are short of money you need to make as much as you can from the sale, end by inviting her to bid on the item and assure her it is in the same condition she sold it you.
Does it not show you she has been stalking your sale account waiting to see if you sell it, and if she has been stalking your sales ask your self WHY ?
Not just because she likes the dress so much and did not know this when she sold it, more like she sold it and found out you could of got much more for it.
If you bought an old coin for £20 then found it was a collectors item worth a Million at auction what would you do if the seller asked to buy it back ?
Or you could sell it her back for £25 and watch it make £120 when she resells is.0 -
Have you ever missed an item of clothing so much that you want to buy it back after you sold it? No, me neither! She's lying to you after she realised she under priced it. Sell it if you need/want the money, but if you like the dress and will continue to enjoy wearing it there is more value in using it than selling it IMO
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Don't sell it back at the same price- you'll lose whatever trading fees you had to pay when you bought it. Advertise it at the price you expect to receive for it, and don't accept any less, If she's honourable, she'll pay your price- if she realised that she made a mistake and undersold it, then she may just bow out- some people are, unfortunately, unscrupulous! Best wishes.0
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I would try and get what I could for it,then if it does not sell,you have her to fall back on.
Thats life profit matters.Life is a !!!!!! and then you die!1 -
Your dress, bought and paid for fair and square. If you want to sell it, do so and good luck - hope you make a profit. Don't understand posters saying donate a bit to charity - why? It was all above board, and there's no moral reason for a donation to charity. Unless OP wants to, of course, but no actual reason to do so.0
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I agree with others who say put it on eBay with a starting price of £25, she can always bid for it. It is a bit risky putting it on for the full £120, it could put people off if it is a bidding site, starting at that price. If you are feeling generous then let her have it back for the £25 plus the cost of postage, I just hope she genuinely wants it back and not to resell, only you can decide.0
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You bought the dress fair and square - under contract law you're now the rightful owner. It is no longer 'her' dress.
You can do whatever you like with it and sell it at whatever price you like.
She has made a low offer to buy the dress back. You can either say no, counter offer, or say price is non negotiable. You're not responsible for her buyers' remorse.
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gloriouslyhappy said:Your dress, bought and paid for fair and square. If you want to sell it, do so and good luck - hope you make a profit. Don't understand posters saying donate a bit to charity - why? It was all above board, and there's no moral reason for a donation to charity. Unless OP wants to, of course, but no actual reason to do so.
The OP has done nothing wrong.
She bought a dress at the advertised price.
She wore it a few times.
She decided to re-sell it.
Her research showed she may get almost 5 times more than she paid. Even what an item is sold for doesn't guarantee your item will sell for anywhere near the same price. I have a pair of reasonable brand sandals listed on eBay. 2 pairs in a similar (no better) condition sold for £20.00 +. I'm struggling to attract buyers at £10.00.
This is one of those rare MDDs (no dilemma at all imho) where the opinion is almost unanimous.
I think the original seller has been incredibly rude and I would have told her that she no longer owns 'her' dress and I am free to sell it for whatever amount I wish.0 -
Hi...You had good fortune to buy the dress for the price you did...Maybe she realizes that or maybe she is genuine ...Once she sold it it ceases to be hers and becomes yours which you can then wear sell or give away. If you want to sell it you could put it on a selling site for the price you paid and I agree with others give her the option of knowing where it is listed and she can then have a good chance of being reunited with the dress if she is genuine. Then whatever it sold for you would be able to enjoy the money from the sale without the worry . Equally if you felt she was really genuine you could sell it back to her for £25 plus postage and enjoy the £5 knowing you had had the wear from the dress for free and £5 to treat yourself. Personally myself I would do the later as I believe she is looking out for that dress if she has noticed it on the site and maybe you felt this too or you would not have felt strongly enough to have asked and i believe when we do things like this we feel better in the long run.0
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