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  • Torry_Quine
    Torry_Quine Posts: 18,874 Forumite
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    I can't imagine ever spending £100 on a present for anyone. As for a week's wages that seems extremely generous to me. 

    Lost my soulmate so life is empty.

    I can bear pain myself, he said softly, but I couldna bear yours. That would take more strength than I have -
    Diana Gabaldon, Outlander
  • 666666
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    I was searching for similar guidance and found this thread. In my case it's for my spouse's best friend and I was thinking of gifting £150 as a couple and wondering if it's appropriate. 
  • Patti27
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    666666 said:
    I was searching for similar guidance and found this thread. In my case it's for my spouse's best friend and I was thinking of gifting £150 as a couple and wondering if it's appropriate. 
    I brought up my thread with some colleagues & friends.  After discussing the comments, the general consensus was anything between £100 - £150 is appropriate.
  • Greenqueen_2
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    Crikey. There was I thinking £20 was about right!
  • Torry_Quine
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    Crikey. There was I thinking £20 was about right!
    Me too.       
    Lost my soulmate so life is empty.

    I can bear pain myself, he said softly, but I couldna bear yours. That would take more strength than I have -
    Diana Gabaldon, Outlander
  • Pollycat
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    Patti27 said:
    666666 said:
    I was searching for similar guidance and found this thread. In my case it's for my spouse's best friend and I was thinking of gifting £150 as a couple and wondering if it's appropriate. 
    I brought up my thread with some colleagues & friends.  After discussing the comments, the general consensus was anything between £100 - £150 is appropriate.
    Crikey. There was I thinking £20 was about right!
    Crikey. There was I thinking £20 was about right!
    Me too.       
    As has been said on this and other similar threads - there is no 'right amount'.
    I'm not sure I would gift £150 even for a spouse's best friend.
    And it would be impossibly expensive for someone on benefits.

  • pickledonionspaceraider
    pickledonionspaceraider Posts: 2,698 Forumite
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    edited 26 August 2022 at 12:00PM
    The way we work it is:
    • Close family member or friend £100
    • Outer circle family or friend £50
    • Work colleague kind of level, and then £20 
    I always give money.  I would never insist on giving a present when someone asks for money.  It is their day, and I would rather give money towards a honeymoon/house deposit, or whatever, - than give them something they do not want or need (and the present is in my style of home furnishing etc, NOT theirs).

    I think in these circumstances, if guests insist on giving a gift, it  looks more like a passive-aggressive statement, than well wishes.  Remember, a lot of wedding presents end up the charity shops.




    With love, POSR <3
  • Pollycat
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    The way we work it is:
    • Close family member or friend £100
    • Outer circle family or friend £50
    • Work colleague kind of level, and then £20 
    I always give money.  I would never insist on giving a present when someone asks for money.  It is their day, and I would rather give money towards a honeymoon/house deposit, or whatever, - than give them something they do not want or need (and the present is in my style of home furnishing etc, NOT theirs).

    I think in these circumstances, if guests insist on giving a gift, it  looks more like a passive-aggressive statement, than well wishes.  Remember, a lot of wedding presents end up the charity shops.




    I wouldn't buy home furnishings but there are some gifts that as very well received, even though money has been requested:
    Pollycat said:
    kazwookie said:
    I hate that type of request with vengeance.

    I take a bottle of champers and a card and have done with it.
    Me too.

    When some friends of ours got married they did a (cringy) poem asking for money.

    We opted to buy 2 bottles of excellent - and expensive - gin (their choice of tipple) and it was very well received.

    They saved it for best and told us they thought of us whenever they had a drink.

  • gwynlas
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    I would give in multiples of £20 dependant on relationship so from £40 for two of you but again I would not exceed £100 joint gift unless close family member.
  • I use the rule of thumb = to the receptions cost per head.  Generally that’s £200 per couple in the south east. 
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