Money Wedding Gift

Torry_Quine

I can't imagine ever spending £100 on a present for anyone. As for a week's wages that seems extremely generous to me. 

666666

I was searching for similar guidance and found this thread. In my case it's for my spouse's best friend and I was thinking of gifting £150 as a couple and wondering if it's appropriate. 

Patti27

666666 said:

I was searching for similar guidance and found this thread. In my case it's for my spouse's best friend and I was thinking of gifting £150 as a couple and wondering if it's appropriate. 

I brought up my thread with some colleagues & friends.  After discussing the comments, the general consensus was anything between £100 - £150 is appropriate.

Greenqueen_2

Crikey. There was I thinking £20 was about right!

Torry_Quine

Greenqueen_2 said:

Crikey. There was I thinking £20 was about right!

Me too.       

Pollycat

Patti27 said:

666666 said:

I was searching for similar guidance and found this thread. In my case it's for my spouse's best friend and I was thinking of gifting £150 as a couple and wondering if it's appropriate. 

I brought up my thread with some colleagues & friends.  After discussing the comments, the general consensus was anything between £100 - £150 is appropriate.

Greenqueen_2 said:

Crikey. There was I thinking £20 was about right!

Torry_Quine said:

Greenqueen_2 said:

Crikey. There was I thinking £20 was about right!

Me too.       

As has been said on this and other similar threads - there is no 'right amount'.
I'm not sure I would gift £150 even for a spouse's best friend.
And it would be impossibly expensive for someone on benefits.

pickledonionspaceraider

The way we work it is:

• Close family member or friend £100
• Outer circle family or friend £50
• Work colleague kind of level, and then £20 

I always give money.  I would never insist on giving a present when someone asks for money.  It is their day, and I would rather give money towards a honeymoon/house deposit, or whatever, - than give them something they do not want or need (and the present is in my style of home furnishing etc, NOT theirs).

I think in these circumstances, if guests insist on giving a gift, it  looks more like a passive-aggressive statement, than well wishes.  Remember, a lot of wedding presents end up the charity shops.

Pollycat

pickledonionspaceraider said:

The way we work it is:

• Close family member or friend £100
• Outer circle family or friend £50
• Work colleague kind of level, and then £20 

I always give money.  I would never insist on giving a present when someone asks for money.  It is their day, and I would rather give money towards a honeymoon/house deposit, or whatever, - than give them something they do not want or need (and the present is in my style of home furnishing etc, NOT theirs).

I think in these circumstances, if guests insist on giving a gift, it  looks more like a passive-aggressive statement, than well wishes.  Remember, a lot of wedding presents end up the charity shops.

I wouldn't buy home furnishings but there are some gifts that as very well received, even though money has been requested:

Pollycat said:

kazwookie said:

I hate that type of request with vengeance.

I take a bottle of champers and a card and have done with it.

Me too.

When some friends of ours got married they did a (cringy) poem asking for money.

We opted to buy 2 bottles of excellent - and expensive - gin (their choice of tipple) and it was very well received.

They saved it for best and told us they thought of us whenever they had a drink.

gwynlas

I would give in multiples of £20 dependant on relationship so from £40 for two of you but again I would not exceed £100 joint gift unless close family member.

Yankee24

I use the rule of thumb = to the receptions cost per head.  Generally that’s £200 per couple in the south east.