Separation

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Good afternoon all.
Ive read various similar threads but each scenario has differences so here is mine.
My wife and I have decided to separate. We are still on good terms but have taken the decision before we end up hating each other. There is still a chance things will repair themselves in the future but obviously here and now we need to formally protect our own positions and have some space.
We are both named on the mortgage though financially she wont be able to afford to live in the property and has already found somewhere else to live. We cant really sell the house as her parents live in a granny flat on the property and invested their life savings into converting a floor into an appartment for them. Whilst I would happily sell now and draw a line in the sand, I am also happy to continue to live in the house and pay the £11k a year mortgage. I dont want to see her parents struggling for somewhere else to live given they have spent most of their savings but at some point in the future, when we do decide to sell, my wife will quite rightly be due some proceeds from the sale of the property.
Any future split of the property sale would obviously have to take into consideration the mortgage payments and general upkeep of the house I will have been responsible for. What would be the best way to find agreement?
Ive read various similar threads but each scenario has differences so here is mine.
My wife and I have decided to separate. We are still on good terms but have taken the decision before we end up hating each other. There is still a chance things will repair themselves in the future but obviously here and now we need to formally protect our own positions and have some space.
We are both named on the mortgage though financially she wont be able to afford to live in the property and has already found somewhere else to live. We cant really sell the house as her parents live in a granny flat on the property and invested their life savings into converting a floor into an appartment for them. Whilst I would happily sell now and draw a line in the sand, I am also happy to continue to live in the house and pay the £11k a year mortgage. I dont want to see her parents struggling for somewhere else to live given they have spent most of their savings but at some point in the future, when we do decide to sell, my wife will quite rightly be due some proceeds from the sale of the property.
Any future split of the property sale would obviously have to take into consideration the mortgage payments and general upkeep of the house I will have been responsible for. What would be the best way to find agreement?
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Are you quite sure you have the living arrangements the right way round?
Frankly your in-laws were exceedingly foolish in doing this without protecting their investment through putting a charge on the property. If for some reason you had to sell now they would struggle to find alternative accommodation and the fact that they have given their life savings away will be looked on as deliberate deprivation of assets so I doubt whether they would qualify for social housing.
You should also keep your fingers crossed that neither of them ever need residential care as again the issue is going to be deliberate deprivation of assets.
I should stress though that I am not looking at ever kicking the in laws out. I have an appointment at the solicitors next week where one thing I will be wanting is some sort of contract to offer them some peace of mind.