Letting a friend know that parent has died.

Sandtree

I dont understand? What is the potential harm in letting them know? Are you concerned they may have a claim on the estate? That it will be an extra mouth to fee at the wake?

Its a common curtsey to let them know, do it after the funeral if you are concerned of the cost of the event.

People lose direct contact with each other over time... we had the thread on how to keep in contact with a grandparent earlier this week... that doesn't mean we stop caring. It costs nothing to send an email.

TripleH

Just before he died, my father got back in touch with a former work colleague who he helped mentor.

They had agreed to meet up in the near future after my father's operation.

Sadly my father didn't make it. My older brother rang the colleague up (we'd met and knew him) to let him know. The poor man was devastated by the news.

I personally would let them know by email and leave it for them to decide what they do next.

GaleSF63

Savvy_Sue said:

My MIL has a friend in a nursing home, she visits when she can and writes when she cannot visit, but she says it is really hard to know what to say to this friend, especially over the last couple of years. And it's actually quite difficult and I suspect painful for her to write these days. But she's always had a habit of letter writing since her cousin emigrated years ago, and they used to exchange letters regularly.

Perhaps she could send postcards instead - just a few words needed, cheerful picture, and the friend knows she hasn't been forgotten.

lacuentaporfavor

ok, thanks, no they dont have a claim on the estate or anything like that and they wont be coming to the wake etc, its just i felt abit miffed that when she went into a home they didnt keep in touch anymore and ask how she was getting on.

I will probably email then thanks.