What to do…house buying and selling - help!!!

No41edwardianhouse

Thanks everyone. I take it there is nothing our solicitor can do to get it in writing that the party who are suggesting they will break the chain, will actually break the chain! 

Flugelhorn

No41edwardianhouse said:

Thanks everyone. I take it there is nothing our solicitor can do to get it in writing that the party who are suggesting they will break the chain, will actually break the chain! 

no absolutely nothing - lots of people say they will break the chain and then don't as they discover that it is all to complicated and disruptive their families 

No41edwardianhouse

Flugelhorn said:

No41edwardianhouse said:

Thanks everyone. I take it there is nothing our solicitor can do to get it in writing that the party who are suggesting they will break the chain, will actually break the chain! 

no absolutely nothing - lots of people say they will break the chain and then don't as they discover that it is all to complicated and disruptive their families 

Disruptive to families - so is promising to do it and then changing their mind. Furious and upset. 

Flugelhorn

No41edwardianhouse said:

Flugelhorn said:

No41edwardianhouse said:

Thanks everyone. I take it there is nothing our solicitor can do to get it in writing that the party who are suggesting they will break the chain, will actually break the chain! 

no absolutely nothing - lots of people say they will break the chain and then don't as they discover that it is all to complicated and disruptive their families 

Disruptive to families - so is promising to do it and then changing their mind. Furious and upset. 

I know it is frustrating but similar has happened to a great many of us - I was buying a property, the vendors were pushing for a quick sale but then suddenly decided they weren't going to sell after all. I was furious and upset - later I had to treat one of them as a patient and naturally had to continue as though nothing had happened - they didn't remember me but I remembered them. 

No41edwardianhouse

Flugelhorn said:

No41edwardianhouse said:

Flugelhorn said:

No41edwardianhouse said:

Thanks everyone. I take it there is nothing our solicitor can do to get it in writing that the party who are suggesting they will break the chain, will actually break the chain! 

no absolutely nothing - lots of people say they will break the chain and then don't as they discover that it is all to complicated and disruptive their families 

Disruptive to families - so is promising to do it and then changing their mind. Furious and upset. 

I know it is frustrating but similar has happened to a great many of us - I was buying a property, the vendors were pushing for a quick sale but then suddenly decided they weren't going to sell after all. I was furious and upset - later I had to treat one of them as a patient and naturally had to continue as though nothing had happened - they didn't remember me but I remembered them. 

Of course. I just have the awful feeling that situations like mine always fall apart 😔😔

I just cannot bring myself to think positively about it all. 

Snookie12cat

No41edwardianhouse said:

Flugelhorn said:

No41edwardianhouse said:

Flugelhorn said:

No41edwardianhouse said:

Thanks everyone. I take it there is nothing our solicitor can do to get it in writing that the party who are suggesting they will break the chain, will actually break the chain! 

no absolutely nothing - lots of people say they will break the chain and then don't as they discover that it is all to complicated and disruptive their families 

Disruptive to families - so is promising to do it and then changing their mind. Furious and upset. 

I know it is frustrating but similar has happened to a great many of us - I was buying a property, the vendors were pushing for a quick sale but then suddenly decided they weren't going to sell after all. I was furious and upset - later I had to treat one of them as a patient and naturally had to continue as though nothing had happened - they didn't remember me but I remembered them. 

Of course. I just have the awful feeling that situations like mine always fall apart 😔😔

I just cannot bring myself to think positively about it all. 

 I am not sure they statistically fall apart more or less than others tbh.
I think all you can try to do it control the things you can and just keep telling yourself it is just a house and there will be others. Fingers crossed though it all works out.

babyblade41

It's good you can vent on here , it helps to get things off ones chest.

For us this is move number 17 !!! This is the second time it has all failed   a few days before trying to exchange ..hence the  finding an alternative which is secure to reduce the chain ..now just our buyers & us .

I'm afraid it is part and parcel ... I akin it to child birth .. the pain & stress going through the process is awful but the end result is well worth it & all the stress falls away to the point where it's just but a memory 

I'm sure it will all work out fine albeit a bit longer than hoped 

No41edwardianhouse

babyblade41 said:

It's good you can vent on here , it helps to get things off ones chest.

For us this is move number 17 !!! This is the second time it has all failed   a few days before trying to exchange ..hence the  finding an alternative which is secure to reduce the chain ..now just our buyers & us .

I'm afraid it is part and parcel ... I akin it to child birth .. the pain & stress going through the process is awful but the end result is well worth it & all the stress falls away to the point where it's just but a memory 

I'm sure it will all work out fine albeit a bit longer than hoped 

babyblade41 said:

It's good you can vent on here , it helps to get things off ones chest.

For us this is move number 17 !!! This is the second time it has all failed   a few days before trying to exchange ..hence the  finding an alternative which is secure to reduce the chain ..now just our buyers & us .

I'm afraid it is part and parcel ... I akin it to child birth .. the pain & stress going through the process is awful but the end result is well worth it & all the stress falls away to the point where it's just but a memory 

I'm sure it will all work out fine albeit a bit longer than hoped 

Thanks so much for the support. 

badger09

OP I really do feel for you, but will try to offer a little perspective. The whole process is stressful, but your own expectations can increase that stress. 

For your own well being, please try to dial back your ‘furious’ feelings at ‘being lied to’. 

It is entirely possible that your vendors had every intention of breaking the chain, until they discovered just how difficult it can be to find suitable short term rental. Been there, but we managed it, albeit with a great deal of stress, expense & many compromises. 

Also, it is unrealistic to expect your vendors, or anyone else in the chain, to make adjustments because of your little one’s traumatic background. They’re not part of your family or support network. They want to sell you their house & you want to buy it. 

The biggest potential for delay is the Probate property which has now appeared at the top of your chain. I would ask your EA (assuming it’s not a factory conveyancer) to liaise up the chain and establish whether Probate has been granted. 

I really hope it works out for you. 

BikingBud

gwynlas said:

Sorry to hear that this is distressing you, house buying and selling is up there with divorce and death for a reason.
As hard as it may be you need to bottle your anguish for the sake of family life as children and pets are very intuitive.
To a child the future is unknown yet the Easter Bunny, Halloween and Father Christmas all come round each year. You just need to be vague about when the move will take place but can talk about possible colour schemes buying bed linen for the new house etc making it a positive experience possibly planting seeds now redy for the new garden.

Whilst I have some empathy with the OP perhaps part of the problems with the UK housing market is that people believe in Santa, the Easter Bunny and Halloween!