Have we upset the seller?

No41edwardianhouse

canaldumidi said:

No41edwardianhouse said:

Slithery said:

What makes you think that you've upset him?
Did you say anything to him?

..... the act of throwing our toys out the pram in a rather almighty way. .....

by being stroppy I’m just worried ....

just by viewing another property? I think you need to keep your terminolgy, and reactions, in perspective.

Thanks for the support 🙄

No41edwardianhouse

hangryconsumer said:

Do you mean that the simple act of going to see another property may have upset the seller? Did you tell the estate agent who may have passed what you said onto the seller?

Yes we have told the estate agent that we are very disappointed! A few other choice words were used. It’s really upsetting that us and our buyer have thrown everything at this only to be told at the final hour that they now won’t break the chain.

we are worried because we did show our utter disappointment and frustration at the estate agent and our solicitor said to their solicitor that we needed an answer by the end of the day yesterday and that we can’t be messed around…

[Deleted User]

This scenario happens daily and to hundreds of people, it's a highly emotional timeframe for all involved in a chain and taking it this personally isn't helping yours, resist the urge, now, to ask parties these questions and cool off a bit.

CasaCroft8

No41edwardianhouse said:

hangryconsumer said:

Do you mean that the simple act of going to see another property may have upset the seller? Did you tell the estate agent who may have passed what you said onto the seller?

Yes we have told the estate agent that we are very disappointed! A few other choice words were used. It’s really upsetting that us and our buyer have thrown everything at this only to be told at the final hour that they now won’t break the chain.

we are worried because we did show our utter disappointment and frustration at the estate agent and our solicitor said to their solicitor that we needed an answer by the end of the day yesterday and that we can’t be messed around…

Estate agents hear all sorts and don't pass ALL of it to the other party. Don't worry

No41edwardianhouse

[Deleted User] said:

This scenario happens daily and to hundreds of people, it's a highly emotional timeframe for all involved in a chain and taking it this personally isn't helping yours, resist the urge, now, to ask parties these questions and cool off a bit.

Very true. Just want to know everything is ok! 

Flugelhorn

CasaCroft8 said:

No41edwardianhouse said:

hangryconsumer said:

Do you mean that the simple act of going to see another property may have upset the seller? Did you tell the estate agent who may have passed what you said onto the seller?

Yes we have told the estate agent that we are very disappointed! A few other choice words were used. It’s really upsetting that us and our buyer have thrown everything at this only to be told at the final hour that they now won’t break the chain.

we are worried because we did show our utter disappointment and frustration at the estate agent and our solicitor said to their solicitor that we needed an answer by the end of the day yesterday and that we can’t be messed around…

Estate agents hear all sorts and don't pass ALL of it to the other party. Don't worry

absolutely - definitely your strop won't have been passed on to the vendors other than to say "purchasers are getting concerned"  - lots of brinksmanship happens in house buying, I remember when there were some odd toings and froings back in 1991 that my sol was unavailable ... to everyone, not just to those causing some aggro , I think he was hiding under his desk with the last bits of paper and his secretary was fielding the chaos - all sorted i  24 hours and we exchanged but he was determined it wasn't going to happen until absolutely right 

No41edwardianhouse

Flugelhorn said:

CasaCroft8 said:

No41edwardianhouse said:

hangryconsumer said:

Do you mean that the simple act of going to see another property may have upset the seller? Did you tell the estate agent who may have passed what you said onto the seller?

Yes we have told the estate agent that we are very disappointed! A few other choice words were used. It’s really upsetting that us and our buyer have thrown everything at this only to be told at the final hour that they now won’t break the chain.

we are worried because we did show our utter disappointment and frustration at the estate agent and our solicitor said to their solicitor that we needed an answer by the end of the day yesterday and that we can’t be messed around…

Estate agents hear all sorts and don't pass ALL of it to the other party. Don't worry

absolutely - definitely your strop won't have been passed on to the vendors other than to say "purchasers are getting concerned"  - lots of brinksmanship happens in house buying, I remember when there were some odd toings and froings back in 1991 that my sol was unavailable ... to everyone, not just to those causing some aggro , I think he was hiding under his desk with the last bits of paper and his secretary was fielding the chaos - all sorted i  24 hours and we exchanged but he was determined it wasn't going to happen until absolutely right 

It’s also about what our solicitor has said to the sellers solicitor. It went along the lines of “my clients may not continue with the purchase as they have been led to believe that you would break the chain. Please let us know by the end of the day”

Or words to that effect…

Snookie12cat

Honestly, I don't think most people just drop a buyer who is commited like you are because you might have annoyed them. I think getting your money is more important.. That being said, what is the plan for moving out now? Do they have a new property to buy?

Flugelhorn

No41edwardianhouse said:

Flugelhorn said:

CasaCroft8 said:

No41edwardianhouse said:

hangryconsumer said:

Do you mean that the simple act of going to see another property may have upset the seller? Did you tell the estate agent who may have passed what you said onto the seller?

Yes we have told the estate agent that we are very disappointed! A few other choice words were used. It’s really upsetting that us and our buyer have thrown everything at this only to be told at the final hour that they now won’t break the chain.

we are worried because we did show our utter disappointment and frustration at the estate agent and our solicitor said to their solicitor that we needed an answer by the end of the day yesterday and that we can’t be messed around…

Estate agents hear all sorts and don't pass ALL of it to the other party. Don't worry

absolutely - definitely your strop won't have been passed on to the vendors other than to say "purchasers are getting concerned"  - lots of brinksmanship happens in house buying, I remember when there were some odd toings and froings back in 1991 that my sol was unavailable ... to everyone, not just to those causing some aggro , I think he was hiding under his desk with the last bits of paper and his secretary was fielding the chaos - all sorted i  24 hours and we exchanged but he was determined it wasn't going to happen until absolutely right 

It’s also about what our solicitor has said to the sellers solicitor. It went along the lines of “my clients may not continue with the purchase as they have been led to believe that you would break the chain. Please let us know by the end of the day”

Or words to that effect…

that also happens much of the time - often seen as a goading tactic, really don't worry - all it indicates is that you are still keen 

No41edwardianhouse

Snookie12cat said:

Honestly, I don't think most people just drop a buyer who is commited like you are because you might have annoyed them. I think getting your money is more important.. That being said, what is the plan for moving out now? Do they have a new property to buy?

They are now waiting to exchange on their onwards at the same time as exchanging with us. However, the people they are buying from have only just started their searches!!! 🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️