Dilemma (long, sorry)

elsien

Spendless said:

"it also doesn't make sense as no contact details have changed for my mum since my sister last saw her/spoke to her so she has numerous ways to find her".

Does this mean that your Mum had the same address/contact details for a long time before you sister lost touch (or even did sis live at same house herself?) or not for all that long before last time sis was in touch with her? If the latter it's possible your sister is being truthful. My Mum has been estranged from her brother for over 20 years. I couldn't tell you the address my Uncle was at the last time we were in touch. I know the name of the street and the side of the road it's on but not the number (long road goes into several hundreds for door numbers) despite me having visited on numerous occasions from my teens until my early 30s. 

And I agree she could have been told your Mum had moved and believed it. Some people say strange things. My MIL was once told her ex sis-in-law had died (pre social media days). Roll on a few years, MIL is visiting her home town and bumps into said sis-in-law in a shop! 

I'd agree with answering the post, she's still at the same address/same contact details. Contact me if you need them.   

But you could find it if you really wanted to. If you went back there you'd probably recognise it. Or you could do a bit of door knocking.  In the OPs case, the missing sister also knows the brother is on facebook, having blocked him previously. 
 
I am estranged from a parent and have been for a number of years. I would have no difficulty in tracking them down if I really wanted to.  Phone numbers I can understand people forgetting, and house numbers. But you only need the name of the street and you're off.  And that's not taking social media into account.   Or google maps. 

Brie

And it used to be that if you rang up a local library they would look in the local phone book for you to get a phone number for someone.  Variations on that still exist of course.  But it's all down to how determined someone might be.

My evil side wants to suggest that you contact your sister via the social media/online place you found her posting and say "please message me so we can discuss mom's will".  The cynic is me thinks that would get a very speedy response.

Spendless

elsien said:

Spendless said:

"it also doesn't make sense as no contact details have changed for my mum since my sister last saw her/spoke to her so she has numerous ways to find her".

Does this mean that your Mum had the same address/contact details for a long time before you sister lost touch (or even did sis live at same house herself?) or not for all that long before last time sis was in touch with her? If the latter it's possible your sister is being truthful. My Mum has been estranged from her brother for over 20 years. I couldn't tell you the address my Uncle was at the last time we were in touch. I know the name of the street and the side of the road it's on but not the number (long road goes into several hundreds for door numbers) despite me having visited on numerous occasions from my teens until my early 30s. 

And I agree she could have been told your Mum had moved and believed it. Some people say strange things. My MIL was once told her ex sis-in-law had died (pre social media days). Roll on a few years, MIL is visiting her home town and bumps into said sis-in-law in a shop! 

I'd agree with answering the post, she's still at the same address/same contact details. Contact me if you need them.   

But you could find it if you really wanted to. If you went back there you'd probably recognise it. Or you could do a bit of door knocking.  In the OPs case, the missing sister also knows the brother is on facebook, having blocked him previously. 
 
I am estranged from a parent and have been for a number of years. I would have no difficulty in tracking them down if I really wanted to.  Phone numbers I can understand people forgetting, and house numbers. But you only need the name of the street and you're off.  And that's not taking social media into account.   Or google maps. 

No, I don't think I could. I vaguely remember the house numbers going into the late 300s and don't remember the house's outside much, other than it had steps up to it which I suspect a lot do on that street. I mean I could go and knock at every house that fits the bill till I possibly hit on something, but I might live many miles away. and not have the time and funds to resort to that  Also the OP's sister might not wish to approach brother and wants to directly contact Mum - or they could just be making it all up.