Grandparent being denied contact with grandchild

flossy_splodge

Has anyone any experience of this?

I know it is now against the law for this to happen but going the legal route seems to be a last ditch situation.

I dont know why my daughter is leaving me out of things like my grandchilds birthday but I have my suspicions what influence is being brought to bear.

  I just want to make sure my grandchild and I maintain the relationship we currently have, ie a warm and loving one which is so difficult to do when she is stopped from communicating with me on many occasions.

I am very sad at how the whole situation has developed but cant see a way forward when I can't spek to my daughter on her own.

sheramber

Is there anybody who could act as a go between between you and your daughter?

unforeseen

I know it is now against the law for this to happen but going the legal route seems to be a last ditch situation

I'm not sure where you got that idea from. 
https://www.gov.uk/contact-grandchild-parents-divorce-separate

Although the title mentions divorce or separation it is still applicable 

lincroft1710

I don't think that grandparents being denied access to their grandchildren is actually "against the law" in England and Wales.

Keep_pedalling

Do you have any other children who are in good terms with your daughter who could act as go between to find out what is really going on?

Brie

Is it that your daughter doesn't want to talk to you (she may have reasons that would explain this) or is it that someone is keeping your daughter from talking to you (which is worrying and may mean she is in an abusive relationship)?

While you sort out a solution I suggest you continue to message the child (depending on age of course) or at least continue to send cards/letters.  If these attempts are rejected then continue by writing the messages/letters in a book that the child can have at a later date when thing become friendlier.

flossy_splodge

sheramber said:

Is there anybody who could act as a go between between you and your daughter?

Sadly not really.  I have a small family and no one really understands how this is killing me. I just keep being told 'leave her alone and she'll come round'.  I'm not sure she will.

flossy_splodge

unforeseen said:

I know it is now against the law for this to happen but going the legal route seems to be a last ditch situation

I'm not sure where you got that idea from. 
https://www.gov.uk/contact-grandchild-parents-divorce-separate

Although the title mentions divorce or separation it is still applicable 

I have had legal advice that suggests it is actually unlawful to prevent contact between grandparents and grandchildren.

flossy_splodge

Keep_pedalling said:

Do you have any other children who are in good terms with your daughter who could act as go between to find out what is really going on?

There is another sibling who tells me that they are appalled at how I've been treated but makes endless justifications as to why they haven't got involved.

Just to be clear, I absolutely do NOT want side taking or similar, just some light to be shed on what the blazes is going on.

flossy_splodge

Brie said:

Is it that your daughter doesn't want to talk to you (she may have reasons that would explain this) or is it that someone is keeping your daughter from talking to you (which is worrying and may mean she is in an abusive relationship)?

While you sort out a solution I suggest you continue to message the child (depending on age of course) or at least continue to send cards/letters.  If these attempts are rejected then continue by writing the messages/letters in a book that the child can have at a later date when thing become friendlier.

I suspect the latter but I have no proof. Control issues are certainly the case imho.

Yes I have continued to acknowledge grandchild and send presents.

Ms_Chocaholic

How old is your grandchild?