Lodger keeps bring her BF back

Amazin

The lodger I'm currently living with keeps bring her BF back here and he's here almost on a daily basis. What is the best thing to do? I did mention before she moved in that it's a double bedroom for one person only. She's basically paying one person's rent but getting more than what she's paying for.   

Slithery

What does the contract say about guests?

theartfullodger

Amazin said:

The lodger I'm currently living with keeps bring her BF back here ....... but getting more than what she's paying for.   

Should she be paying for what they're getting up to?

lookstraightahead

Did you say they couldn't have guests?

canaldumidi

Well when you discussed the terms of the agreement regarding guests, what was agreed?

Have you discussed your concerns with her, and what was her reaction to your suggestion, for example, that she alternate between staying at yours and her staying at boyfriend's?

But ultimately if you cannot agree a compromise you are both happy with you'll have to serve her notice and find a different lodger (with whom you lay down clear groundrules at the start).

Presumably the contract notice period is a week yes?

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SuseOrm

This is a very common issue unless you have a contract specifically specifying the numbers of nights boyfriends may stay if it all this just isn’t gonna work,  You have a third person living with you

zagubov

canaldumidi said:

Well when you discussed the terms of the agreement regarding guests, what was agreed?

Have you discussed your concerns with her, and what was her reaction to your suggestion, for example, that she alternate between staying at yours and her staying at boyfriend's?

But ultimately if you cannot agree a compromise you are both happy with you'll have to serve her notice and find a different lodger (with whom you lay down clear groundrules at the start).

Presumably the contract notice period is a week yes?

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This ^^^^^
When you get the next lodger. Lay out firm rules about notice, shared use of rooms, no locks, pets, guests, noise, cleaning, sharing consumables, bills, etc.

And doubly important if they're a friend/relative.

deannagone

When I had a lodger,  I accepted that anyone I shared with would have a life and have a friend staying, maybe not every day but more often than once a week.  It was just my norm.  We'd pass in the hallway occasionally, that's all.  The impact on bills (the odd shower/cooking) was minimal.  How much this affects your 'personal bubble' is very individual, obviously.  What will also affect things is how well you get on with the lodger and their friend.  Obviously if someone has a friend and overnight stays are involved, they have to happen somewhere.

But if it isn't an easy arrangment, you can give notice and they have to leave.  End of.  

But if you don't want more than rare overnight stays, this must be made clear verbally and in writing.  You might find you have a smaller group of willing lodgers to choose from, but at least everything will be up front and clear from the beginning.  

steampowered

deannagone said:

When I had a lodger,  I accepted that anyone I shared with would have a life and have a friend staying, maybe not every day but more often than once a week.  It was just my norm.  

I agree completely. If the guest is polite and they keep to themselves, what's the problem?

If the Op is feeling uncomfortable for any reason then that's a different matter.

TheJP

steampowered said:

deannagone said:

When I had a lodger,  I accepted that anyone I shared with would have a life and have a friend staying, maybe not every day but more often than once a week.  It was just my norm.  

I agree completely. If the guest is polite and they keep to themselves, what's the problem?

If the Op is feeling uncomfortable for any reason then that's a different matter.

It depends if bills are included in the rent set for 1 person. If the BF is here having showers regularly, washing clothes etc then that adds to the cost of bills. I agree its fine to have a guest over but if it was 3-4 days in succession then I would be a little disgruntled.  

getmore4less

When does a guest transition to its their main residence status based on amount of occupancy.

You could consider but not limited to.

Do they leave and return from work without going to their other place.

Do they get left in the property when the lodger is not there.

Number of overnights in a row 
Average number of nights over a period.
Eg.
7n in a row but just a few times a year probably ok
Average of more than 1/2 a month one to watch.

Are they using domestic facilities like washing machine for their clothing.

Have they installed their personal items like toothbrush, significant clothing, other equipment.

Does the lodger go stay at their other place.
Is it proportional.

Do they have another place or are they surfing.

...

Needs a discussion, you have sold it as a room for 1 and are feeling they are occupying as 2 == not happy.

Be careful as you may lead yourself down the path of agreement to them as a 2 for additional money.

If you don't want a 2  focus on other aspects like the impact on your space.