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Constructive Dismissal?

plumb1_2
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Hi
Last week I gave my notice in, due to being verbally abused by my boss, very strong swearing by him, asked him to stop but just carried on.
My resignation letter stated verbal abuse causing my anguish and stress.( which is true, I am just waiting to see my doctor)
Plus with no grievance procedure in place, no one to bring this matter to. So haven’t gone back.
I was in the process of being tupe to another company. So I would think that’s boat sailed down the river.
I received a letter today asking me to attend a formal grievance meeting with my boss and his wife ( I’ve just found out that she is a director to, but takes no part in the business).suddenly we have a grievance policy?
Imo it’s going to be a biased meeting husband and wife team , I don’t feel comfortable with this.
Can I record the meeting? is it worth going?
Last week I gave my notice in, due to being verbally abused by my boss, very strong swearing by him, asked him to stop but just carried on.
My resignation letter stated verbal abuse causing my anguish and stress.( which is true, I am just waiting to see my doctor)
Plus with no grievance procedure in place, no one to bring this matter to. So haven’t gone back.
I was in the process of being tupe to another company. So I would think that’s boat sailed down the river.
I received a letter today asking me to attend a formal grievance meeting with my boss and his wife ( I’ve just found out that she is a director to, but takes no part in the business).suddenly we have a grievance policy?
Imo it’s going to be a biased meeting husband and wife team , I don’t feel comfortable with this.
Can I record the meeting? is it worth going?
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Not clear what your objectives are. Why are your TUPE bridges burnt?0
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Thrugelmir said:Not clear what your objectives are. Why are your TUPE bridges burnt?Burnt bridge, as I have resigned so would not qualify for tupe0
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plumb1_2 said:Thrugelmir said:Not clear what your objectives are. Why are your TUPE bridges burnt?Burnt bridge, as I have resigned so would not qualify for tupe1
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With it being short time notice of the meeting (2days) it’s getting someone who has the time.0
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plumb1_2 said:With it being short time notice of the meeting (2days) it’s getting someone who has the time.I’m a Forum Ambassador and I support the Forum Team on Debt Free Wannabe and Old Style Money Saving boards. If you need any help on these boards, do let me know. Please note that Ambassadors are not moderators. Any posts you spot in breach of the Forum Rules should be reported via the report button, or by emailing forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com. All views are my own and not the official line of MoneySavingExpert.
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Brie said:plumb1_2 said:With it being short time notice of the meeting (2days) it’s getting someone who has the time.I only received the letter yesterday, asking to attend Tuesday morning, to me that’s just 1 day. If I am correct.0
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Guidance is that the meeting should be held within 5 working days of receiving notification of the grievance. Your ex employer is covering themselves should you follow a constructive dismissal route. Sounds as if proper advice has been sought.1
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So is it 5 days or 7 notice working days from I handed my notice in? Or can I delay the process due to waiting to getting an appointment with my doctor for medicine for my mental health.0
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You should go, if you possibly can, with or without someone. Yes, the boss is an absolute jerk, but if you can manage to make nice for long enough to be TUPE'd then you'll preserve your entitlements and be rid of the complete tool. Then you can see how the new management is and make the decision with fresh eyes.
I really hope you can find the energy to deal with this moron and to keep the perks that you deserve. Wifey has no reason to gang up on you if you were leaving anyway - from the sound of it she doesn't want to lose you and might be the one who tries to make this right. And remember, if they behave like pigs, you have the power to just stand up and walk out.
Any chance you could call her before going, just to politely ask what the meeting would be about, you can certainly say you are very upset and see what she says?1 -
plumb1_2 said:So is it 5 days or 7 notice working days from I handed my notice in? Or can I delay the process due to waiting to getting an appointment with my doctor for medicine for my mental health.1
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