Concern for a friend

987nice

The adult children can see what's going on and have the same thoughts/concerns.

You can't make someone see/listen 🤷‍♀️
I just wondered is there anything in place to help someone in this situation but it seems not unless they help themselves.

In her head she may give him something that will appease him, for the time being. I feel that's risky as he will keep coming back for more & likely get away with it.

Like I said I feel he's planned this out for a very long time & sat waiting for the correct moment. He's not silly.

987nice

MalMonroe said:

Your friend may be suffering from clinical depression. It very much sounds like it to me. In which case, she won't have any interest in what's happening - and it seems to be that a lot is happening and her husband is being completely unreasonable.

A good first step may be to try to encourage her to see her GP. While she's not feeling good she really won't be able to take in what exactly is going on. 

As others have said, your friend definitely does need some legal advice too. 

Would her grown up children be able to help her in any way? I think they might want to be involved, I know I would if it were my parents. After all, their parents are about to split up and their dad wants to go and live in another country. All major happenings for any family.

You cannot live your friend's life for her. But you can encourage her to see her family and talk with them. And be a good supportive friend - which it does sound like you are - but you can't force her to do anything. 

I don't think it's depression, maybe naivety & failing to understand what CAN happen in this type of situation.

As well as some denial and wanting to see the good in everyone/feeling they wouldn't do this as it's wrong.

Very tough situation

elsien

Have her children sat her down and asked her what she expects to happen when he sells the house and vanishes off with the money? 

Pollycat

elsien said:

Have her children sat her down and asked her what she expects to happen when he sells the house and vanishes off with the money? 

My question too.

OP - thanks for clarifying.

If she's not willing to listen to her own children's concerns, she probably won't listen to anyone.

Are the children in contact with their Dad?
Have they tried to find out what he's up to?