Mortgage free in Forever Home :-)

Baileys_Babe

Would it help if whilst you are busy tonight and tomorrow if Mr. K put away his things from the dining table?

Merlin's_Beard

Howling at your dad's email. Perseverance through fire, there.

Re the dining table, either get Mr KK to do it, or leave it. No one ever died of a messy dining room table.

LadyWithAPlan

KajiKita said:

Have almost a boot’s worth of stuff to shift. I’m feeling slightly bad about the fact that I will just give it to a charity shop as I look at it and see value in it, but realistically I really don’t have the time or energy to organise selling and shipping it ….

KK

I think sometimes it is best to charity shop things rather than some items sit there for years as you try to sell them for pennies - its the  time v the money  vs energy (including every time you look at the pile of stuff) I have some things I just need to give to the CS and swear that I will buy less!

beanielou

I have had the hall decorated.
On the coat stand there were something like 11 scarfs & I could only tell you when I last wore one!!
So off to the CH I think!

KajiKita

@Baileys_Babe it’s not Mr KK’s stuff in the dining table, it’s mine! Largely because I can’t use my large bookcase in the the living room because of building works. I have straightened the muddle a bit! 😊

@Merlin's_Beard - my dad is definitely a ‘character’ ….

@LadyWithAPlan - thank you for that. You’re right, my time is more precious to me. 

@beanielou - oh yes ….. the hall coat-rack …. 😳😂

KK

KajiKita

Ordered the big bit of kit in work that the site has needed for 20+ years today. I have been lauded in the R&D’s weekly management meeting (totally detached team that were behind a locked door when I first arrived on site!) and I *finally* have the feeling that I have achieved something constructive in the role after 18 months of drowning and firefighting! 

Had an acceptance from a candidate today - he’s happy, I’m happy 😊

Counselling was interesting but tiring. Shattered now but as I was driving home I realised that the MSE site has changed a lot in my life, not just financially.

KK

Cheery_Daff

Congratulations on work achievements! 😊

Nice reflection on MSE 😊 I feel the same! What has changed for you? 

beanielou

Cheery_Daff said:

Congratulations on work achievements! 😊

Nice reflection on MSE 😊 I feel the same! What has changed for you? 

So so this on both counts.

savingholmes

Glad the MSE site is helping you. I find it a huge source of support.

Best of luck with the dining table. Be kind to you - the building works won't last forever - plenty of time to sort it when you can put things back where they are supposed to be.

KajiKita

@Cheery_Daff, that will take some thought, but it’s along the lines of increased:
confidence,
self ownership,
security (that back of the head buzzing worry about being in debt / having no savings isn’t gone but it’s way less now),
support to be allowed to talk honestly about the unmentionable (money and finances) in a place that doesn’t judge,
the generosity of posters to advise, share ideas and hard learnings, encourage etc. 

I think it has spilled across into my work and vice versa, as both in parallel in my latest role have been about taking an almighty mess (the job more than my finances thankfully!) and slowly, step by step, straightening it out, resourcing it, organising it, setting strategy(ies), mini projects and milestones along the way (I remember my first OP was tiny - less than £10, but felt so good).

I suppose I feel less a leaf in the wind with no control and more like I own my life, if that makes sense? I’m doing things this year, increment by increment that I have never even considered before, such as aiming for reading 52 books in a year - I set myself that target honestly not knowing if it was even possible - I am well on track and I am enjoying doing it. My craft room has come out seeing people crafting and then wondering why am I living with this horrible mess in my-not-spare-room-dumping-ground etc. 

KK